[IBC] friendly dilemma
 

A friend of mine has several very nice bonsai, which are starting to look
rather bleak.

Offer to come over and help him water and prune.

Nina.

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[IBC] friendly dilemma
 

One thing I forgot to mention that some have already
suggested...I did offer
to go over and help maintain his collection. He said very frankly, NO. I
did not mean it as an insult, but I think he perceived it as such.


You offered, he refused. Don't push it. He'll remember, if at some point
he wants your help, he'll ask. That's *&all* you can do.

Nic

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[IBC] friendly dilemma
 

Keith, wrong approach. Don't offer to help. This can wound pride which
might be all your friend has left. Instead, ask (beg even) him to "teach"
you. This could give him a reason to perk up and work on his trees, you
need him! Besides, I bet he can indeed teach you things you don't even know
that you don't know ;-)

Jay Beckenbach - Melrose, FL - Zone 8b/9a -

-----Original Message-----
From: Keith ]
Sent: Tuesday, February 24, 2004 11:06 PM
Subject: friendly dilemma


One thing I forgot to mention that some have already suggested...I did offer
to go over and help maintain his collection. He said very frankly, NO. I
did not mean it as an insult, but I think he perceived it as such.

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[IBC] friendly dilemma
 

Keith, wrong approach. Don't offer to help. This can wound pride which
might be all your friend has left. Instead, ask (beg even) him to "teach"
you. This could give him a reason to perk up and work on his trees, you
need him! Besides, I bet he can indeed teach you things you don't even know
that you don't know ;-)

Jay Beckenbach - Melrose, FL - Zone 8b/9a -

-----Original Message-----
From: Keith ]
Sent: Tuesday, February 24, 2004 11:06 PM
Subject: friendly dilemma


One thing I forgot to mention that some have already suggested...I did offer
to go over and help maintain his collection. He said very frankly, NO. I
did not mean it as an insult, but I think he perceived it as such.

---------- CLIP ----------

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++++Sponsored, in part, by Ken Rutledge++++
************************************************** ******************************
-- The IBC HOME PAGE & FAQ: http://www.internetbonsaiclub.org/ --
+++++ Questions? Help? e-mail +++++

[IBC] friendly dilemma
 

Keith, wrong approach. Don't offer to help. This can wound pride which
might be all your friend has left. Instead, ask (beg even) him to "teach"
you. This could give him a reason to perk up and work on his trees, you
need him! Besides, I bet he can indeed teach you things you don't even know
that you don't know ;-)

Jay Beckenbach - Melrose, FL - Zone 8b/9a -

-----Original Message-----
From: Keith ]
Sent: Tuesday, February 24, 2004 11:06 PM
Subject: friendly dilemma


One thing I forgot to mention that some have already suggested...I did offer
to go over and help maintain his collection. He said very frankly, NO. I
did not mean it as an insult, but I think he perceived it as such.

---------- CLIP ----------

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++++Sponsored, in part, by Ken Rutledge++++
************************************************** ******************************
-- The IBC HOME PAGE & FAQ: http://www.internetbonsaiclub.org/ --
+++++ Questions? Help? e-mail +++++