For those who are born with their Venus in Virgo, there is a tendency to be overly critical of emotions and people. They like to be cautious with romantic notions. Shy, they can hide behind a cold demeanor to protect the deep feelings they do store inside. It is hard for them to operate in impulsive, unknowable situations and that is what dating usually involves. They will often be accused of living inside their own head and not coming out to connect with others often enough. It isn't a purposeful act. They are more comfortable in their own thoughts than just about anywhere else.

They are charming in a subdued way but they never make a move until they are absolutely certain they are doing the right thing. Natural organizers, they have a tendency to put people and emotions into neat little categories as well. Fair or not, if they have put a person into a negative category they are unlikely to be moved into a more positive light. These people love black and white, not understanding what goes on in gray areas. Therefore they are likely to perceive situations as being simpler than they actually are. That can be a bit infuriating for a partner who is trying to get them to explore the depths with them. If a partner is seeking bold declarations of love and undying passion, they should find someone whose Venus is not in Virgo.