si si , got it!
 

thanks to all replies re why apples are not affected by pollen parent. at
the moment (start of autumn) my apple tree is practically ready to harvest.
It has several grafts, so the boughs are heavy with apples ranging from
light pinky green to deep bloom covered purple. It has been the mother of
all battles between me and the blackbirds, parrots, possums and codling
moths to get this almost perfect crop. I stand beside her as a partner, I,
provider of all she needs and loves, she, bestower of wondrous bounty in
return. (don't want any stich about apple trees actually being
hermaphrodite, don't care what she does in her own time)