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Sue wrote: There are no host(esse)s, since this is an unmoderated newsgroup, available to all equally. But I do agree with that last sentence. Perhaps if you would also 'do as you would be done by' things wouldn't get so fraught. Personal insults are inflammatory and juvenile, no? Takes two to tango. Yes, you are right. But one finds it very difficult to keep the fire within. Calling someone a stupid cow is frankly very juvenile but if one has nothing better to throw back when hurt, why not?! ) |
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In article , Mike
wrote: Never feel afraid to ask anything, even if you think it is trivial. ...but whatever you do don't post via Garden Banter 'cos they'll be after you... (I'm not entirely sure why as the 'interference' is minimal AFAICS but what do I know). Kevin |
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In article , Kay Easton wrote:
OK, it's giving in to the bullies who are trying to disrupt the group and drive away long-term posters I really don't understand why anyone should feel driven away. If you don't like what someone posts you have two options - ignore it or respond, the choice is entirely yours. If particular people annoy you killfile them; you only have to read what you want to read. I may be new in this particular group but I've been using forums since before there was a 'net' and if you think the conversation can be robust here you may like to look at some of the diving or motorcycling forums. (Er, on the other hand if you are at all delicate you probably shouldn't!) Kevin |
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In article , Kevin Weller
writes I really don't understand why anyone should feel driven away. If you don't like what someone posts you have two options - ignore it or respond, the choice is entirely yours. If particular people annoy you killfile them; you only have to read what you want to read. Kay, I agree with Kevin, I have met you and I am shocked that recent postings have got to you; as you are one of the most well balanced people I know! Don't go, you would be an enormous loss - remember, I ducked out of urg for a long time because I didn't like nasty postings but I have now learned a new skill; the PLONK button. I do not download poster(s) who I have applied this rule to and therefore I cannot read their posts - solution, I don't have to get annoyed. Anyway, as we know, troublemakers get sussed out and ignored and they go away - so just hang on. Arrange another urg meet Kay, your last one was brilliant. -- Judith Lea |
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In message , Kay Easton
writes I have been pondering over the last couple of weeks whether it's time to just duck out of urg. No loss to urg - other people here know more about every one of the topics I post on. The only loss is to me, in terms of the sheer amount that I learn from here, but I am beginning to wonder whether the price is worth it. I shall continue for a while, but I can't see myself being here much longer. OK, it's giving in to the bullies who are trying to disrupt the group and drive away long-term posters, but I don't have to take on every battle that the world offers me. That would be a shame. I read here daily but post very infrequently these days, which is a huge contrast to several years ago, when I was a regular contributor. I have become accustomed to ignoring people and threads likely to cause trouble for me to the extent of kill-filing them. Cowardly perhaps - but it makes life a damned site easier. There are enough battles in real life without having more here. Having said all that, we always used to bicker in winter in the old days -- June Hughes |
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-- .. "La puce" wrote in message oups.com... Mike wrote: (snip) Unfortunatly this post will now attract 'poison arrows' because I am going on a cruise :-(( Just watch Mike, this is my second post to you and I have mixed feelings about this. Please understand what I am trying to say here for the first time and the last. snip your lecture :-)) Had I NOT concluded with that comment, Her Ladyship would have had another go at me. However, to prove me wrong ................ Know what I mean ;-) ;-) ?? Mike |
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Mike wrote: Know what I mean ;-) ;-) ?? Well no I don't Mike. In all honesty I think my support to you has brought me into a few killfile without even responding to you, but supporting you as an individual with a problem with Sacha and Janet and my standing up to Sacha as made me realise that a few people in here are hypocrites. So no, I don't know what you mean and furthermore I don't want to know. |
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In article , Kay Easton wrote:
You have to read at least one obnoxious post in order to make the decision to kf. Dear God, I'm beginning to believe some of these posters may have a point. I'll happily concede you may have to read one obnoxious post and you may have to read something that is quoted. Is that better? I'm sorry perhaps you were right after all, perhaps you are too delicate to be on a newsgroup. You are not the only long term user of newsgroups. Newgroups? We were using BBS systems long before newsgroups but so what? Having said I was 'new' I needed to say that I was only new here to make my point. Someone implied it was bad here and it really isn't, it's a lot 'worse' elsewhere ('worse' if you let it bother you). We now have posters who have no interest in gardening Then how about posting about gardening rather than nitpicking? Kevin |
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On 16/12/05 5:21 pm, in article , "Kevin
Weller" wrote: In article , Kay Easton wrote snip We now have posters who have no interest in gardening Then how about posting about gardening rather than nitpicking? Kay is talking about good manners on a newsgroup - specifically this one. She is absolutely correct (IMO) that each group has its own dynamics and those of this group were good manners, consideration for others, sensible discussion of each question or point and very little personal animosity. We exchanged gardening information, tips, news and sometimes, plants and real-life encounters that were great fun. That said, what is really ridiculous now is that two persistent offenders have brought the group to this level and one of those knows nothing about gardening and is less than interested. The other occasional transgressors are of no account, IMO. COMPLETELY ignoring such people is the only way to deal with them when they try to start fights, cat threads, personal insults and abuse etc. And I do mean COMPLETELY. -- Sacha www.hillhousenursery.co.uk South Devon (remove the weeds to email me) |
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Janet Baraclough wrote: There's another issue, which is that while old hands to a group have seen plenty of evidence of a troll's true character, and have them killfiled, new arrivals do not. Newbies are then at the mercy of the endless lies and misrepresentations about the group, and other posters, fed to them by the troll. They see few or no denials by the group , but fail to realise this is because their new friend and adviser is widely killfiled. You are again displaying serious need for control. Newbies are not idiots, queries are not necessarily from trolls, and there's lots of people here who can respond and enjoy sharing their knowledge without your constant rude interuptions and more to the point your permission. Stop trying to control everything and just enjoy what is written by others. Some of you are using this forum as a diary and start thread as soon as they've got a thought coming to their mind. Sometimes it's charming, other time it's like Mother calling you downstairs to watch Blanketyblank. Honestly ... |
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Kay Easton wrote: That's the bit I don't understand. Why should newsgroups be suitable places only for those of 'robust' constitution? Why not have a newsgroup where the same standards of courtesy apply as one would expect in real life? This is not real life. Robustness doesn't mean rudeness. Here, have a biscuit. |
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In article , Janet Baraclough
wrote: Newbies are then at the mercy of the endless lies and misrepresentations about the group, and other posters, fed to them by the troll If they can only form their opinions based on what they're told to think rather than making up their own minds there's not a lot of hope for them 'out here' is there so I wouldn't waste your energy. Kevin |
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In article , Sacha wrote:
COMPLETELY ignoring such people is the only way to deal with them when they try to start fights, cat threads, personal insults and abuse etc. And I do mean COMPLETELY. I agree but, and I hate to point this out, you don't seem to be following your own advice. If there are egos to be fed you just fed them. I've probably been here for a couple of months and, AFAICS, there's a group of people over 'there' who don't like the group of people (which includes you) over 'here'. So what? That's life. Everyone should get over it. When it starts I hit the ignore key for that thread branch. The worst that happens is that I might miss a nugget of information but I'm sure life will go on. I confess I'm wondering how I got sucked into this so I'll probably shut up now. I suspect that I saw people taking this newsgroup thing far too seriously (I mean, it's not as if it's real life like Star Trek is it?) and didn't resist the urge to comment. Kevin |
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In article , Kay Easton wrote:
Why not have a newsgroup where the same standards of courtesy apply as one would expect in real life? I'm sorry Kay, and please don't think I'm trying to patronise you, real life may not be like that where you live but out in the wider world I'm afraid that's exactly how it is. Kevin |
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