Adam:
As a 74 year old curmudgeon, I think you have the good conscience to
understand the priorities in your life. The raising of your family
should always come first, and the time for a hobby should be one of the
last elemnets in your priority list.

I spent 30 some years working 80 hours a week including 18 years
commuting 65 miles one way, so I am thoroughly versed on time management.

The best advice you were given, in my humble opinion, is put the trees
in the ground, but I will add that reading can be the substitute for
"doing" Bonsai right now. There are usually many books at the library
that could keep you occupied for years studying and preparing yourself
for the day you find time for your hobby. Of course dropping in on the
IBC will also keep your feet in the water, so just do the best you can
in managing your time with the proper priorities, and don't beat up on
yourself too much.

Take care of the family first, your children will grow up and leave home
soon enough! Bonsai will always be there in the background. It is the
hobby of your choice that will be waiting for you when you find the time.

Best regards and good luck,

Carl L. Rosner - near Atlantic City zone 6/7
http://bmee.net/rosner
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adam roler wrote:

to all,

well, i think its about time to call it quits. as of
late, i have been more discouraged about my art than ever.
i truly love bonsai. it is the only thing that could bring
me peace during a time of great turbulence in my life. but
now as i watch powerlessly as all my beautiful trees die, i
am almost certain that a chapter in my life has closed. i
can list all kinds of reasons. i guess i'll list some of
them here for my own sanity.
i don't have time. i am a young man with a wife and a
toddler. i work 50 to 55 hours a week to try to get ahead.
i think i might be able to maintain interest if i could
get my hands on something other than ficus, schefflera, or
boxwood. i have tried my local club but the only advice i
have been given is that i should go through mail order to
get good stuff (which i can't afford), or go to some
obscure nursery (which is always too far away). so i have
come to the conclusion that at least at this point in my
life, bonsai is not for me. i am 27 years old. all the
people at my local club that i have met or talked to are
over 50 (or at least significantly older than me). i wish
so much to feel like the last two and a half years in this
art were not wasted, but it gets harder every day. i look
at my trees now and feel helpless. i don't want to quit
but it seems i have no other option. due to the above
circumstances, my creativity has met its limit. i am
bored. so help me if you can. i hope this is not too
sappy for all of you. i mean all of this from my heart.
so thanks all for your kind words and wisdom. i hope to
hear from you soon.







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