Keith, wrong approach. Don't offer to help. This can wound pride which
might be all your friend has left. Instead, ask (beg even) him to "teach"
you. This could give him a reason to perk up and work on his trees, you
need him! Besides, I bet he can indeed teach you things you don't even know
that you don't know ;-)

Jay Beckenbach - Melrose, FL - Zone 8b/9a -

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From: Keith ]
Sent: Tuesday, February 24, 2004 11:06 PM
Subject: friendly dilemma


One thing I forgot to mention that some have already suggested...I did offer
to go over and help maintain his collection. He said very frankly, NO. I
did not mean it as an insult, but I think he perceived it as such.

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