madgardener wrote:
no harm no foul Bob. I knew you were a good guy, but if youse looks at your
reply it almost looks like your chastising Helen for wanting a thank you.
Yer ok in my book! (I've had the same thing with a few sharings of my own
divisions and let it go.........)
maddie


Thanks; that's why I wrote a follow-up message [below].
I reread my first message, and it came across a lot harsher than I
intended. I just meant to say that Helen may have inadvertently
offended some folks ("Have a nice day" can cause some people to burst
into tears) so they didn't reply. Some of the seeds may have been lost
in the mail or confiscated by Customs. And some of the recipients were
probably just assholes, but sadly that is to be expected too.

Don't assume that everyone who didn't respond is an jerk; most of them
are, but you can't tell which ones. It's easier to "let it go" that way
(at least in the same situation, it's easier for me.)

Best regards,
Bob


"zxcvbob" wrote in message Lest anyone get the idea
from my previous message, I don't really blame

Helen for getting upset; I remember how ****ed I was when I exchanged
some aquatic plants with someone on rec.aquaria.frshwater.plants and
they stiffed me. I picked out my very best extra java ferns and wrapped
them carefully and sent them priority mail. I don't remember what kind
of plants I was supposed to get in return, but I never heard back from
the guy. I sent him an email to see if they had arrived OK, and he said
they were great. And he never sent me anything. I sent a reminder
email a few weeks later and he never replied. I was only out a couple
of dollars for the postage, but I *really* felt hurt and angry about
being taken advantage of.

Maybe he sent them and they got lost in the mail. I tend to believe
that a certain [large] percentage people are just assholes, and I don't
do exchanges anymore unless I'm OK with getting nothing back.

Best regards,
Bob