On Sat, 20 Mar 2004 18:48:36 GMT, Janet Baraclough..
wrote:

The message a
from Bonnie Punch contains these words:


Paghat meant emotionally needy. I knew that, and I meant that she is
not any more needy than the rest of us.

Okay..because your next sentence mentioned financial expense I thought
you might have misread.

We *all* manipulate people
*all* the time.

I don't agree; I think most of us do it deliberately at some time or
other. But many people consciously avoid doing it, as much as possible.

We pay attention to a spouse/lover so that they will
love us, and we won't be alone. We flatter a friend so they'll like us
and we'll have someone to talk to.

Do you? How very odd. I don't do either of those things. My husband
still adores me unconditionally, and my friends know that a compliment
from me is genuinely deserved by them and genuinely felt by me.

In order to get you have to give.

That isn't generosity, it's self-seeking.

Maybe she's just really nice?

Could be :-)

What's she supposed to do?
People
need to be reminded of basic ettiquette sometimes, and some people
won't get it unless you hit them upside the head with a clue-by-four.

I would be very surprised if any uncaring selfish ingrates would give
a damn about a general public rant about basic etiquette. They've got
away with their bad manners scot-free; nobody here knows who they are,
so they won't lose out next time there's a general seed-offer.

This isn't the first time someone has complained here of a lack of a
decent response when sending out items.

Exactly; so everyone knows by now that if you send seeds to usenet
strangers, not all of them will bother to thank. People are responsible
for themselves and the consequences of their own choices, as Victoria
and Paghat have already said.

Thankyou for this conversation :-)

Janet.


ok all thanks and B.S. aside
the seed sendin gcan sor of be like a contract the people know she
wants to know the seeds did or did not arrive that's all if they do
not intend to let her know weather or not they did or did not arrive
they should not order any seeds it's a sad fact of life that
inconsiderate people exist but not much we can do about it but
name calling at this lady is uncalled for
she simply asked for a damn responds up front and she expected to get
on she has a certain expectation of respondse and if she dosen't get
it than she can get upset if she wants to after all their her seeds
and they have enriched someone elses life it's at least nice to know
they arrived
its part of the deal that people agree to when they ask for seeds
so why are we name calling on a simple matter why do we choose to
hurt peoples feelings on purpose
it's not really right is it?
calling her names is just not necessary
and so what if she is needy lots of people are in fact I bet every
one is needy sometimes
some needy people are anoying they just take and take and take
an give nothing this woman gives back plenty fold
michelle