There is a hermaphrodite cultivar called Ribes laurifolium 'Rosemoor Form' (it originates from the Royal Horticultural Society garden at Rosemoor, Devon, in the UK). It has the larger flowers of the male and the berries of the female. Apparently it has a good shape as well. However, I don't know whether there are stockists for it in the US.

Sorry not to be of any actual help!