Derek wrote:

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If you don't hate or ignore me for the things I've said and
done to you, how can you criticise me for not hating or
ignoring Jon for the things he's said and done to me?

I'm not; I'm just asking why you want to help him after all
the cruel and unkind things he has said and done to you.

Our
issue was far more serious than just the name-calling and
abuse I get from Jon, and yet you say you don't hate me.

No, I don't. I think you are basically a decent person,
and you mean well. I don't hate anyone, not even Slippery.
I do distrust him, and I will never tell him anything about
myself, but that is different.

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