Kate Morgan wrote:
Thank you Dave and Kay your input has helped me a great deal. I thought that
the neighbour was wrong but I needed to be clear in my own mind so that I
could stand firm if she starts on about it again. I am afraid she complains
about most things and I am in the firing line at the moment :-)

Sounds like my neighbour --- that way.
Easiest solution is to stop giving her things, then she has nothing to
complain about. :-)