On 06/10/2011 03:56, Christina Websell wrote:
My Lawson's cypr are gone from the front of my house, insurance claim from
my neighbours.
I held out for a while, they refused to grind out the stumps, but I insisted
that if they didn't, I would not agree.
So they came and felled them today, ground out the stumps and now it's like
there were never there.
They were great for the woodpigeons, who nested in them all the time, so I
did insist they waited until there were none.
I used to be friends with my neighbours and now, because of these trees, we
hate each other.
She will notice a difference in the winter, when her car freezes over more
without the protection from them. Good.



This is all immensely sad. I know how attached one can become to all
manner of plants, but especially trees. It will take a while to get
used to living without them.

It's also very sad to fall out with a good neighbour and friend. Of
course you blame her for your current misery, but I do hope that, given
time, both your attitudes will soften. You suggest it will not, but do
not make your mind up to it. Let time heal the rift, if it can. This
depth of sadness and blame is all too destructive. I have read many
posts of yours over the years, and you are better and wiser than this.
Grieve because you must then, even if you can't forget, endeavour to
forgive.

Perhaps, in time, you could plant a berried bush or small tree to
appease your woodpigeons.

Take it gently.

--
Spider
from high ground in SE London
gardening on clay