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Sentimentality & Gardens
Because of my website, I get at least one e-mail a day, often many a day,
from people who either thought paghat.com was a nursery & wanted to buy from me a plant I discussed, or who are hoping I will send them seeds or cuttings from my garden, or most common of all, people sweetly wanting to share with me emotional feelings about certain plants they found me praising. My own feelings while roaming amidst or caring for or sitting between plants is very emotional, & I've sometimes tried to figure out where this emotion comes from. A nostalgia for a lost connection with our primitive selves who lived better integrated into nature? Merely an aesthetic response to things that are incredibly beautiful? People often associate plants with lost parents or grandparents, & want in their gardens things that were the favorites of vanished loved ones. So there's something deeply spiritual going on, that at a very basic (instinctual?) level sees the cycle of life & death in the garden & associates that with our own lives & deaths & possible survival into future lives or afterlife. From the number of letters I've gotten with tales of the gardens & individual plants of childhood, I think the largest part of this spiritual-feeling response to gardens & gardening originates in early imprinting of what must have been the very first beautiful things we ever saw in the world around us -- plus, where blossoms are concerned, our first encounter with the ephemerality of of all things, what in buddhism 101 is called mono-no-aware, "the tragedy of things," which is also the essence of awesome beauty. The environments we create for ourselves indoors don't seem to have quite this same lifelong emotional complexity. Do we need a davenport like grandma's? Does the wallpaper have to be the same as in our personal bedroom when we were small? Are we nostalgic for the same bathroom tiles or kitchen linoleum of the places wherein we learned to crawl, then stand? Well, maybe a bit -- I have very emotional responses when I see long thickly built folksy kitchen tables like my great-grandma's, & something as horrible to eat as fried cornmush tastes wonderful because grandma used to make it for us. But to great extent the more inexplicable & more powerful nostalgia arises from a rugged old Granny Smith appletree similar to the one my granny Elva planted when she was newly married & which was a sprawling huge thing when great-grandchildren came along. Or a mountain ash like the one all the children climbed in in her front yard. Or a strawberry patch reminiscent of grampa's strawberry field before he turned it into cornrows of dahlias. Even the odor of a leaflitter or a decaying stump pulls at the heartstrings in ways the odor grandma's witchhazel body splash or grandpa's Old Spice could not quite equal. Nostalgia & sentiment for people & relations, one would suppose, should have to do more with the color of their clothes, the odors inside their houses, the songs they hummed to themselves & we learned from them.... certainly nostalgia has its power in all these things, but for many of us the deepest feelings are just slightly aside from the interior world of the dweelings & individuals from childhood, & is more to be found outside, in the garden. It doesn't even have to be the same plants, as I think the nostalgia goes so far back it predates our very births, & really is about that lost & purer connection to nature, which would include to family. Perhaps it is a nostalgia for a syrupy Rockwellian fantasy of things that never were, of promises that were abroad in a culture so shattered those promises never had a chance of being kept -- a nostalgia for our own individual innocences & our hopeful beliefs in a world we were once able to view naively with awareness of fewer tragedies. I would feel a bit weird for my own whelling emotionalism while in the garden if not for those emails received from so many people who seem to have the same emotional response to shrubs & trees & flowers. -paghat the ratgirl -- "Of what are you afraid, my child?" inquired the kindly teacher. "Oh, sir! The flowers, they are wild," replied the timid creature. -from Peter Newell's "Wild Flowers" See the Garden of Paghat the Ratgirl: http://www.paghat.com/ |
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Sentimentality & Gardens
I was working out on my little balcony today and came in for a cup of
coffee, I needed a break, and flipped on the newsgroup to see what was going on. I was already a bit teary as happens on occasion while working with my garden plants but the tears flowed while reading your post. There are times when I really do feel my grandmother near by and this is most always when I'm gardening. She has been gone for almost 30 years. We had our very best talks when I gardened with her, I was very tiny when she started me digging in the dirt with her. She came to my house when I started my own gardens and I knew of her approval by the hand she'd lay on my shoulder when I did something she approved of. Sometimes people don't have to use words. I truly feel that this woman was the only person who ever taught me what unconditional love was all about. I still talk to Gran'ma when I work in my flowers, sometimes more than others. I know she's there because I pick up her scent, it isn't earth or a particular plant or rain, it's Ponds Cold Cream. She always smelled like Ponds Cold Cream and Dove soap. Funny, but sniffing a jar of the pink stuff or a bar of Dove just isn't the same thing. Today, just as I finished grooming the flower boxes and started on the clematis vine I was overpowered with the aroma of Ponds and Dove and Gran'ma and I said aloud, "It does look nice now, doesn't it Gran'ma." That's when the tears started to well, oh how I loved that woman, and I sat for I don't know how long till the scent was gone. It was a very peaceful feeling, not sad, just deeply emotional. And in that state your post was the next thing I encountered and I just sat and wept while I read it through several times. She would have loved your garden too, Paggers, I think you also garden from the heart. Val |
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Sentimentality & Gardens
"paghat" wrote in message news I think the largest part of this spiritual-feeling response to gardens & gardening originates in early imprinting of what must have been the very first beautiful things we ever saw in the world around us Yes, else why - of all the things in the garden and the forest around here - am I _most_ concerned about 1) whether the raspberries will ever really take off, and become a patch like the one in which I could disappear at the age of 4 - the only confirmation of my continuing existence, to those outside, being the audible "mmmmmm" as I consumed the fruit, and 2) why my asparagus patch, now in its third year, isn't producing more than the spindliest of ferns, even though the light it gets, and the soil, and the climate, seem so similar to those where, as a child, I went with my father each spring to cut the sweet stalks and eat them right there in the garden? |
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Sentimentality & Gardens
plus, where blossoms are concerned, our
first encounter with the ephemerality of of all things, what in buddhism 101 is called mono-no-aware, "the tragedy of things," which is also the essence of awesome beauty. BRBR The Walking Iris, splendid in the garden, clenches l a fist in protest cut, in a vase. zemedelec |
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