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You sound a little needy, which might be off-putting to some seed
recipients.

Helen is the very opposite of needy.

"Needy" doesn't only mean poor,hard-up. It's also used to describe
people who (consciously or not), manipulate other people and social
situations in order to support some hidden psychological need of their
own.

She very generously offers to send
seeds to people *at her own expense*! If you send to more than a dozen
people, that starts to add up to some real $$$.

Well, Helen said she had packaged and sent a consignment to over 300
recipients, many abroad.Yes, that's some real $$$; "investing" so much
time and money in strangers could mean she's rather emotionally needy in
the above sense. As Paghat pointed out, needy behaviour often often
makes people shy away.

I don't think Helen (or you) should take it as an unkind criticism. If
on careful consideration one's own behaviour or attitude turns out to be
the cause of one's frustration, at least there's an opportunity to do
something about it :-)

Janet.