On Tue, 10 Apr 2007 08:10:42 +0100, "Pete (.¿.)"
wrote:

Interesting news this week on Cyber Bullying. It occurred to me
we are
cursed in these groups with a few of our own, and they should be
named
and shamed. Not just on Usenet, but in local papers and out in
their
local communities. Should their neighbors and communities not be
informed?

Surely this would stop them in their tracks?

No

I hereby propose to name and shame, please add names to the
list. If
they cant take a hint, we shall add home addresses, then company
address, then local rags etc. What do we think?

You're a bully

Known bullies in no particular order and initially using their
screen
names only, without email addresses.

Please only put current bullies, not reformed characters.


Pete (.¿.)

Look familiar?

Very

Read on...........

Types of serial bully: The Attention-Seeker, The Wannabe, The
Guru and
The Sociopath
I estimate one person in thirty, male or female, is a serial
bully.
Who does the following profile describe in your life?

Pete (.¿.)

The serial bully:

is a convincing, practised liar and when called to account, will
make
up anything spontaneously to fit their needs at that moment
has a Jekyll and Hyde nature - is vile, vicious and vindictive
in
private, but innocent and charming in front of witnesses; no-one
can
(or wants to) believe this individual has a vindictive nature -
only
the current target of the serial bully's aggression sees both
sides;
whilst the Jekyll side is described as "charming" and convincing
enough to deceive personnel, management and a tribunal, the Hyde
side
is frequently described as "evil"; Hyde is the real person,
Jekyll is
an act
excels at deception and should never be underestimated in their
capacity to deceive
uses excessive charm and is always plausible and convincing when
peers, superiors or others are present (charm can be used to
deceive
as well as to cover for lack of empathy)
is glib, shallow and superficial with plenty of fine words and
lots of
form - but there's no substance
is possessed of an exceptional verbal facility and will
outmanoeuvre
most people in verbal interaction, especially at times of
conflict
is often described as smooth, slippery, slimy, ingratiating,
fawning,
toadying, obsequious, sycophantic
relies on mimicry, repetition and regurgitation to convince
others
that he or she is both a "normal" human being and a tough
dynamic
manager, as in extolling the virtues of the latest management
fads and
pouring forth the accompanying jargon
is unusually skilled in being able to anticipate what people
want to
hear and then saying it plausibly
cannot be trusted or relied upon
fails to fulfil commitments
is emotionally retarded with an arrested level of emotional
development; whilst language and intellect may appear to be that
of an
adult, the bully displays the emotional age of a five-year-old
is emotionally immature and emotionally untrustworthy
exhibits unusual and inappropriate attitudes to sexual matters,
sexual
behaviour and bodily functions; underneath the charming exterior
there
are often suspicions or hints of sex discrimination and sexual
harassment, perhaps also sexual dysfunction, sexual inadequacy,
sexual
perversion, sexual violence or sexual abuse
in a relationship, is incapable of initiating or sustaining
intimacy
holds deep prejudices (eg against the opposite gender, people of
a
different sexual orientation, other cultures and religious
beliefs,
foreigners, etc - prejudiced people are unvaryingly
unimaginative) but
goes to great lengths to keep this prejudicial aspect of their
personality secret
is self-opinionated and displays arrogance, audacity, a superior
sense
of entitlement and sense of invulnerability and untouchability
has a deep-seated contempt of clients in contrast to his or her
professed compassion
is a control freak and has a compulsive need to control everyone
and
everything you say, do, think and believe; for example, will
launch an
immediate personal attack attempting to restrict what you are
permitted to say if you start talking knowledgeably about
psychopathic
personality or antisocial personality disorder in their
presence - but
aggressively maintains the right to talk (usually
unknowledgeably)
about anything they choose; serial bullies despise anyone who
enables
others to see through their deception and their mask of sanity
displays a compulsive need to criticise whilst simultaneously
refusing
to value, praise and acknowledge others, their achievements, or
their
existence
shows a lack of joined-up thinking with conversation that
doesn't flow
and arguments that don't hold water
flits from topic to topic so that you come away feeling you've
never
had a proper conversation
refuses to be specific and never gives a straight answer
is evasive and has a Houdini-like ability to escape
accountability
undermines and destroys anyone who the bully perceives to be an
adversary, a potential threat, or who can see through the
bully's mask
is adept at creating conflict between those who would otherwise
collate incriminating information about them
is quick to discredit and neutralise anyone who can talk
knowledgeably
about antisocial or sociopathic behaviors
may pursue a vindictive vendetta against anyone who dares to
held them
accountable, perhaps using others' resources and contemptuous of
the
damage caused to other people and organisations in pursuance of
the
vendetta
is also quick to belittle, undermine, denigrate and discredit
anyone
who calls, attempts to call, or might call the bully to account
gains gratification from denying people what they are entitled
to
is highly manipulative, especially of people's perceptions and
emotions (eg guilt)
poisons peoples' minds by manipulating their perceptions
when called upon to share or address the needs and concerns of
others,
responds with impatience, irritability and aggression
is arrogant, haughty, high-handed, and a know-all
often has an overwhelming, unhealthy and narcissistic
attention-seeking need to portray themselves as a wonderful,
kind,
caring and compassionate person, in contrast to their behaviour
and
treatment of others; the bully sees nothing wrong with their
behavior
and chooses to remain oblivious to the discrepancy between how
they
like to be seen and how they are seen by others
is spiritually dead although may loudly profess some religious
belief
or affiliation
is mean-spirited, officious, and often unbelievably petty
is mean, stingy, and financially untrustworthy
is greedy, selfish, a parasite and an emotional vampire
is always a taker and never a giver
is convinced of their superiority and has an overbearing belief
in
their qualities of leadership but cannot distinguish between
leadership (maturity, decisiveness, assertiveness, co-operation,
trust, integrity) and bullying (immaturity, impulsiveness,
aggression,
manipulation, distrust, deceitfulness)
often fraudulently claims qualifications, experience, titles,
entitlements or affiliations which are ambiguous, misleading, or
bogus
often misses the semantic meaning of language, misinterprets
what is
said, sometimes wrongly thinking that comments of a satirical,
ironic
or general negative nature apply to him or herself
knows the words but not the song
is constantly imposing on others a false reality made up of
distortion
and fabrication
sometimes displays a seemingly limitless demonic energy
especially
when engaged in attention-seeking activities or evasion of
accountability and is often a committeeaholic or apparent
workaholic
Responsibility

The serial bully appears to lack insight into his or her
behaviour and
seems to be oblivious to the crassness and inappropriateness
thereof;
however, it is more likely that the bully knows what they are
doing
but elects to switch off the moral and ethical considerations by
which
normal people are bound. If the bully knows what they are doing,
they
are responsible for their behaviour and thus liable for its
consequences to other people. If the bully doesn't know what
they are
doing, they should be suspended from duty on the grounds of
diminished
responsibility and the provisions of the Mental Health Act
should
apply.

Yep, that fits Pete (.¿.)

Cheerio troll