On her side, 11 year old girls are often too embarrassed to ask advice from
strangers.

Not my point. If she needs to ask for help, it should be from her teacher or
the school librarian, hardly strangers.
Iris,
Central NY, Zone 5a, Sunset Zone 40
"If we see light at the end of the tunnel, It's the light of the oncoming
train."
Robert Lowell (1917-1977)