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Hi, I wonder if any one can offer guidance on a problem that I have with a neighbour. A number of years ago we bought our house of a lady who moved into the cottage next door. What we hadn't appreciated was that she would (in our opinion) struggle to watch someone else do things differently in her former property. We have a shared boundary and in the past few years have experienced any number of issues with her apparent disregard for that boundary.
On one part of the boundary fence we have a very well established ceanothus (which has suffered this winter) it does not extend over fence into her garden but has grown to about 18ins above the height of the fence. It also extends about 3 or 4 feet back into our garden. A couple of days ago I discovered that our neighbour had used a power tool with a long handled extension to lean over into our garden and cut away the shrub so that no part of it is above the line of the fence. When I challenged her about it she said it had been annoying her, when I pointed out that she had no right to do that and would she please stop interfering with us and our garden she simply said " what are you going to do about it" and "get a life". Bearing in mind that this lady has a laurel hedge on the same boundary fence that is at least 3 feet above the fence line and we have absolutely no issue with it, we are struggling to understand why she feels the need to do these things, but more importantly we just want her to stop. It is only a hedge, and we don't want to " lose the plot" but this is just one of a series of incidents and is beginning to get us down. We have no interest in " tit for tat" activities but we do need to do something to make this stop. Any thoughts would be much appreciated. Paul |
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@gardenbanter.co.uk says... Hi, I wonder if any one can offer guidance on a problem that I have with a neighbour. A number of years ago we bought our house of a lady who moved into the cottage next door. What we hadn't appreciated was that she would (in our opinion) struggle to watch someone else do things differently in her former property. We have a shared boundary and in the past few years have experienced any number of issues with her apparent disregard for that boundary. On one part of the boundary fence we have a very well established ceanothus which does not extend over fence into her garden but has grown to about 18ins above the height of the fence. It also extends about 3 or 4 feet back into our garden. A couple of days ago I discovered that our neighbour had used a power tool with a long handled extension to lean over into our garden and cut away the shrub so that no part of it is above the line of the fence. When I challenged her about it she said it had been annoying her, when I pointed out that she had no right to do that and would she please stop interfering with us and our garden she simply said " what are you going to do about it" and "get a life". Bearing in mind that this lady has a laurel hedge on the same boundary fence that is at least 3 feet above the fence line and we have absolutely no issue with it, we are struggling to understand why she feels the need to do these things, but more importantly we just want her to stop. It is only a hedge, and we don't want to " lose the plot" but this is just one of a series of incidents and is beginning to get us down. We have no interest in " tit for tat" activities but we do need to do something to make this stop. Any thoughts would be much appreciated. Paul If she moved/downsized because she's elderly/impoverished/widowed it would be worth considering if age-related dementia/mental deterioration is in play? Longer-term neighbours may be able to shed some light on that. Janet |
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"Paul C" wrote in message ... Hi, I wonder if any one can offer guidance on a problem that I have with a neighbour. A number of years ago we bought our house of a lady who moved into the cottage next door. What we hadn't appreciated was that she would (in our opinion) struggle to watch someone else do things differently in her former property. We have a shared boundary and in the past few years have experienced any number of issues with her apparent disregard for that boundary. On one part of the boundary fence we have a very well established ceanothus which does not extend over fence into her garden but has grown to about 18ins above the height of the fence. It also extends about 3 or 4 feet back into our garden. A couple of days ago I discovered that our neighbour had used a power tool with a long handled extension to lean over into our garden and cut away the shrub so that no part of it is above the line of the fence. When I challenged her about it she said it had been annoying her, when I pointed out that she had no right to do that and would she please stop interfering with us and our garden she simply said " what are you going to do about it" and "get a life". Bearing in mind that this lady has a laurel hedge on the same boundary fence that is at least 3 feet above the fence line and we have absolutely no issue with it, we are struggling to understand why she feels the need to do these things, but more importantly we just want her to stop. It is only a hedge, and we don't want to " lose the plot" but this is just one of a series of incidents and is beginning to get us down. We have no interest in " tit for tat" activities but we do need to do something to make this stop. Any thoughts would be much appreciated. Paul -- Paul C Paul if it has gone this far and now 'looks' as if it might get nasty without 'action from outside' to put her in her place, and let's face it, what she has done is certainly not on, then I would do what I did before when I had a bit of neighbour problem. A Solicitor's letter. I had a very large garden with 28 gardens backing onto it. 26 superb and I spent hours chatting to them instead of working, however, 2 needed a letter. One was coming onto the land and scattering rubbish which included bricks etc, the other didn't want the hedge I put on the boundary and ran across the bottom of their garden and sprayed weed killer on it. Put a stop to both of them. They've got flats there now instead ;-) Mike -- .................................... Don't take life too seriously, you'll never get out alive .................................... |
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On the other hand, should you come to sell the property, you have to tell the potential buyer (if asked - and their estate agent will have it as a standard question on their form) of any neighbour disputes, and it may deter potential buyers. So you need to bear this in mind if you think it is likely that you'll want to sell while she's still living next door. You could consider pure defence - as I understand it, you are allowed to build a boundary wall or fence to 2m without planing permission. I'd consider a second fence just inside your property (so you don't have to get any agreement) to the full 2m, which should cut down her ability to attack with power tools. You could also decide now what action of hers would be absolutely beyond the limit, and the stage at which you would seek legal advice. For example, what if she decided that weedkiller would be better than power tools? It's easy to let things escalate bit by bit to beyond tolerable.
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"Janet" wrote rg... , Paul. says... Hi, I wonder if any one can offer guidance on a problem that I have with a neighbour. A number of years ago we bought our house of a lady who moved into the cottage next door. What we hadn't appreciated was that she would (in our opinion) struggle to watch someone else do things differently in her former property. We have a shared boundary and in the past few years have experienced any number of issues with her apparent disregard for that boundary. On one part of the boundary fence we have a very well established ceanothus which does not extend over fence into her garden but has grown to about 18ins above the height of the fence. It also extends about 3 or 4 feet back into our garden. A couple of days ago I discovered that our neighbour had used a power tool with a long handled extension to lean over into our garden and cut away the shrub so that no part of it is above the line of the fence. When I challenged her about it she said it had been annoying her, when I pointed out that she had no right to do that and would she please stop interfering with us and our garden she simply said " what are you going to do about it" and "get a life". Bearing in mind that this lady has a laurel hedge on the same boundary fence that is at least 3 feet above the fence line and we have absolutely no issue with it, we are struggling to understand why she feels the need to do these things, but more importantly we just want her to stop. It is only a hedge, and we don't want to " lose the plot" but this is just one of a series of incidents and is beginning to get us down. We have no interest in " tit for tat" activities but we do need to do something to make this stop. Any thoughts would be much appreciated. Paul If she moved/downsized because she's elderly/impoverished/widowed it would be worth considering if age-related dementia/mental deterioration is in play? Longer-term neighbours may be able to shed some light on that. ......................................... That was my first thought too, deterioration takes place so slowly sometimes and in so many different ways it's only when it becomes obvious, perhaps years later, that you realise how long ago it actually started. Ask other neighbours if they have noticed any changes in her and try to get them on your side. Of course she may be just a cantankerous old bitch in which case you may need to resort to legal advise. The local Citizens Advise Bureau may be able to help. What ever you do do not react to her or any legal recourse will be lost. -- Regards Bob Hobden W.of London. UK |
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"Bob Hobden" wrote in message ... "Janet" wrote rg... , Paul. says... Hi, I wonder if any one can offer guidance on a problem that I have with a neighbour. A number of years ago we bought our house of a lady who moved into the cottage next door. What we hadn't appreciated was that she would (in our opinion) struggle to watch someone else do things differently in her former property. We have a shared boundary and in the past few years have experienced any number of issues with her apparent disregard for that boundary. On one part of the boundary fence we have a very well established ceanothus which does not extend over fence into her garden but has grown to about 18ins above the height of the fence. It also extends about 3 or 4 feet back into our garden. A couple of days ago I discovered that our neighbour had used a power tool with a long handled extension to lean over into our garden and cut away the shrub so that no part of it is above the line of the fence. When I challenged her about it she said it had been annoying her, when I pointed out that she had no right to do that and would she please stop interfering with us and our garden she simply said " what are you going to do about it" and "get a life". Bearing in mind that this lady has a laurel hedge on the same boundary fence that is at least 3 feet above the fence line and we have absolutely no issue with it, we are struggling to understand why she feels the need to do these things, but more importantly we just want her to stop. It is only a hedge, and we don't want to " lose the plot" but this is just one of a series of incidents and is beginning to get us down. We have no interest in " tit for tat" activities but we do need to do something to make this stop. Any thoughts would be much appreciated. Paul If she moved/downsized because she's elderly/impoverished/widowed it would be worth considering if age-related dementia/mental deterioration is in play? Longer-term neighbours may be able to shed some light on that. ........................................ That was my first thought too, deterioration takes place so slowly sometimes and in so many different ways it's only when it becomes obvious, perhaps years later, that you realise how long ago it actually started. Ask other neighbours if they have noticed any changes in her and try to get them on your side. Of course she may be just a cantankerous old bitch in which case you may need to resort to legal advise. The local Citizens Advise Bureau may be able to help. What ever you do do not react to her or any legal recourse will be lost. -- Regards Bob Hobden W.of London. UK ""The local Citizens Advise Bureau may be able to help." and do what? This person is trespassing, all be it in the air, on the OP's land and damaging their property, just as two of my neighbours were 'damaging' my property. In my case, had all 28 neighbours been ""IN MY EYES" doing something wrong, then "I" would have been at fault, but with only two, I flung the book at them. The OP needs to do the same. NO messing, no phaffing around. Mike -- .................................... Don't take life too seriously, you'll never get out alive .................................... |
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Nuisance neighbour
On Mar 19, 2:40*pm, Paul C wrote:
Hi, I wonder if any one can offer guidance on a problem that I have with a neighbour. A number of years ago we bought our house of a lady who moved into the cottage next door. What we hadn't appreciated was that she would (in our opinion) struggle to watch someone else do things differently in her former property. We have a shared boundary and in the past few years have experienced any number of issues with her apparent disregard for that boundary. On one part of the boundary fence we have a very well established ceanothus which does not extend over fence into her garden but has grown to about 18ins above the height of the fence. It also extends about 3 or 4 feet back into our garden. A couple of days ago I discovered that our neighbour had used a power tool with a long handled extension to lean over into our garden and cut away the shrub so that no part of it is above the line of the fence. When I challenged her about it she said it had been annoying her, when I pointed out that she had no right to do that and *would she please stop interfering with us and our garden she simply said " what are you going to do about it" and "get a life". Bearing in mind that this lady has a laurel hedge on the same boundary fence that is at least 3 feet above the fence line and we have absolutely no issue with it, we are struggling to understand why she feels the need to do these things, but more importantly we just want her to stop. *It is only a hedge, and we don't want to " lose the plot" but this is just one of a series of incidents and is beginning to get us down. We have no interest in " tit for tat" activities but we do need to do something to make this stop. Any thoughts would be much appreciated. Paul -- Paul C Get a life. Relax. Don't worry about such trivia. Even if you do send a solicitor's letter, she'll probably have forgotten about it in a couple of weeks if she's as barmy as you say. FFS, it's only a few twigs! I let my nieghbours do what they like to my extensive hedges, it saves me the work, I ecourage them. Be cunning. Ask her to do some more, she'll soon get fed up. You need some training in man/old fart management. Just record the incident in case she goes completely bonkers. What will you do if she ignores/forgets about any letter? Get her put in jail? You'll look really good in the local rag. Remember, you may well end up the same yourself one day. Ignore the drivel posted above. Live and let live. F. solicitors, they can starve for me. |
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On Sat, 19 Mar 2011 14:40:22 +0000, Paul C
wrote: Hi, I wonder if any one can offer guidance on a problem that I have with a neighbour. A number of years ago we bought our house of a lady who moved into the cottage next door. What we hadn't appreciated was that she would (in our opinion) struggle to watch someone else do things differently in her former property. We have a shared boundary and in the past few years have experienced any number of issues with her apparent disregard for that boundary. On one part of the boundary fence we have a very well established ceanothus which does not extend over fence into her garden but has grown to about 18ins above the height of the fence. It also extends about 3 or 4 feet back into our garden. A couple of days ago I discovered that our neighbour had used a power tool with a long handled extension to lean over into our garden and cut away the shrub so that no part of it is above the line of the fence. When I challenged her about it she said it had been annoying her, when I pointed out that she had no right to do that and would she please stop interfering with us and our garden she simply said " what are you going to do about it" and "get a life". Bearing in mind that this lady has a laurel hedge on the same boundary fence that is at least 3 feet above the fence line and we have absolutely no issue with it, we are struggling to understand why she feels the need to do these things, but more importantly we just want her to stop. It is only a hedge, and we don't want to " lose the plot" but this is just one of a series of incidents and is beginning to get us down. We have no interest in " tit for tat" activities but we do need to do something to make this stop. Any thoughts would be much appreciated. Paul On the face of it, what she did was illegal, full stop. But given the property history it may be that she was doing what she thought was best and when you reacted she reacted against your reaction, if you get the drift. It may be that her age is a factor, a combination of the sort of mental deterioration we all hope we don't have to suffer personally (but won't realise fully if we do!) and the mental attitude of her generation that hates to see something not being just as she thinks it should be. Maybe she hasn't fully accepted that she doesn't own the property any more. You mention that this is one in a series of incidents but don't go into detaill so I'm only responding to the one you've now mentioned. How well do you know her? If only as since buying the property it would be worth "casually" chatting to neighbours to find out what she's been like over time. Depending on the outcome, a friendly rather than a confrontational approach might be the way forward. Or maybe (if there are any) contact her son/daughter to chat about the situation and seek their help. Be very careful about taking things forward in a more formal way (through solicitor etc.). Property disputes can be very troublesome and, these days, can impact adversely should you come to sell the house (particularly if she is still next door). Any recourse to solicitors etc., should be an absolute last resort. Potentially you could be talking about an injunction that you won't be able to hide from a future purchaser of your home. And formal action could make matters far worse than they are now. That said, I would be worried about someone who might be "getting old mentally" but who is physically fit enough to use (and owns) some unspecified power tool! Whatever you do, don't react on a "like for like" basis (e.g. by cutting down the laurel) - you say you're not interested in this now but if the frustration continues, it could become difficult to remain not interested! But you must. Jake |
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Paul C wrote in news:Paul.C.7fa75b6
@gardenbanter.co.uk: Hi, I wonder if any one can offer guidance on a problem that I have with a neighbour. A number of years ago we bought our house of a lady who moved into the cottage next door. What we hadn't appreciated was that she would (in our opinion) struggle to watch someone else do things differently in her former property. We have a shared boundary and in the past few years have experienced any number of issues with her apparent disregard for that boundary. On one part of the boundary fence we have a very well established ceanothus which does not extend over fence into her garden but has grown to about 18ins above the height of the fence. It also extends about 3 or 4 feet back into our garden. A couple of days ago I discovered that our neighbour had used a power tool with a long handled extension to lean over into our garden and cut away the shrub so that no part of it is above the line of the fence. When I challenged her about it she said it had been annoying her, when I pointed out that she had no right to do that and would she please stop interfering with us and our garden she simply said " what are you going to do about it" and "get a life". Bearing in mind that this lady has a laurel hedge on the same boundary fence that is at least 3 feet above the fence line and we have absolutely no issue with it, we are struggling to understand why she feels the need to do these things, but more importantly we just want her to stop. It is only a hedge, and we don't want to " lose the plot" but this is just one of a series of incidents and is beginning to get us down. We have no interest in " tit for tat" activities but we do need to do something to make this stop. Any thoughts would be much appreciated. Paul You could try befriending her. She might be lonely and seeking attention. Cut some flowers that you might have, invite her over for drinks or a meal. You might enjoy her company. Of course she might be a stubborn and spiteful old bat, but I have found a little bit of friendliness can soften the hardest heart. Baz |
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On Mar 21, 1:01*pm, Baz wrote:
Paul C wrote in news:Paul.C.7fa75b6 @gardenbanter.co.uk: Hi, I wonder if any one can offer guidance on a problem that I have with a neighbour. A number of years ago we bought our house of a lady who moved into the cottage next door. What we hadn't appreciated was that she would (in our opinion) struggle to watch someone else do things differently in her former property. We have a shared boundary and in the past few years have experienced any number of issues with her apparent disregard for that boundary. On one part of the boundary fence we have a very well established ceanothus which does not extend over fence into her garden but has grown to about 18ins above the height of the fence. It also extends about 3 or 4 feet back into our garden. A couple of days ago I discovered that our neighbour had used a power tool with a long handled extension to lean over into our garden and cut away the shrub so that no part of it is above the line of the fence. When I challenged her about it she said it had been annoying her, when I pointed out that she had no right to do that and *would she please stop interfering with us and our garden she simply said " what are you going to do about it" and "get a life". Bearing in mind that this lady has a laurel hedge on the same boundary fence that is at least 3 feet above the fence line and we have absolutely no issue with it, we are struggling to understand why she feels the need to do these things, but more importantly we just want her to stop. *It is only a hedge, and we don't want to " lose the plot" but this is just one of a series of incidents and is beginning to get us down. We have no interest in " tit for tat" activities but we do need to do something to make this stop. Any thoughts would be much appreciated. Paul You could try befriending her. She might be lonely and seeking attention. Cut some flowers that you might have, invite her over for drinks or a meal. You might enjoy her company. Of course she might be a stubborn and spiteful old bat, but I have found a little bit of friendliness can soften the hardest heart. Baz- Hide quoted text - - Show quoted text - Quite right Baz. I can't believe the nasty, spitefull advice being handed out by others. It's unBritish. Finished th digging yet BTW? |
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Have a camcorder handy in upstairs room to video furture actions to be used in court. You could also ask if she could tighten the 'screw that's loose'. Been there done that so to speak....had one myself. |
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Thank you to everyone for taking the time to post comments. We've actually been in this situation for several years, ( and to the person who mentioned that "its just a few twigs" there have been a series of incidents). We've tried befriending her, a bottle of wine at Xmas etc, as a family we helped her when she had intruders in a field that she owns and my son in particular spent quite alot of time helping to clear up. She runs a successful antiques business and I honestly don't believe that she has dementia, she is just used to getting her own way and doesn't have time for people who disagree with her. In the greater scheme of things it isn't massively important, its just not very pleasant to have someone damage parts of your property and then look you in the eye and say " so what are you going to do about it". I'll sleep on it for a few days and then decide what to do. Many thanks Paul |
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On Mon, 21 Mar 2011 21:21:15 +0000, Paul C wrote
(in article ): 'Baz[_3_ Wrote: ;915543']Paul C wrote in news:Paul.C.7fa75b6 @gardenbanter.co.uk: - Hi, I wonder if any one can offer guidance on a problem that I have with a neighbour. A number of years ago we bought our house of a lady who moved into the cottage next door. What we hadn't appreciated was that she would (in our opinion) struggle to watch someone else do things differently in her former property. We have a shared boundary and in the past few years have experienced any number of issues with her apparent disregard for that boundary. On one part of the boundary fence we have a very well established ceanothus which does not extend over fence into her garden but has grown to about 18ins above the height of the fence. It also extends about 3 or 4 feet back into our garden. A couple of days ago I discovered that our neighbour had used a power tool with a long handled extension to lean over into our garden and cut away the shrub so that no part of it is above the line of the fence. When I challenged her about it she said it had been annoying her, when I pointed out that she had no right to do that and would she please stop interfering with us and our garden she simply said " what are you going to do about it" and "get a life". Bearing in mind that this lady has a laurel hedge on the same boundary fence that is at least 3 feet above the fence line and we have absolutely no issue with it, we are struggling to understand why she feels the need to do these things, but more importantly we just want her to stop. It is only a hedge, and we don't want to " lose the plot" but this is just one of a series of incidents and is beginning to get us down. We have no interest in " tit for tat" activities but we do need to do something to make this stop. Any thoughts would be much appreciated. Paul - You could try befriending her. She might be lonely and seeking attention. Cut some flowers that you might have, invite her over for drinks or a meal. You might enjoy her company. Of course she might be a stubborn and spiteful old bat, but I have found a little bit of friendliness can soften the hardest heart. Baz Thank you to everyone for taking the time to post comments. We'veactually been in this situation for several years, ( and to the personwho mentioned that "its just a few twigs" there have been a series ofincidents). We've tried befriending her, a bottle of wine at Xmas etc,as a family we helped her when she had intruders in a field that sheowns and my son in particular spent quite alot of time helping to clearup. She runs a successful antiques business and I honestly don't believethat she has dementia, she is just used to getting her own way anddoesn't have time for people who disagree with her. In the greater scheme of things it isn't massively important, its justnot very pleasant to have someone damage parts of your property and thenlook you in the eye and say " so what are you going to do about it". I'll sleep on it for a few days and then decide what to do. Many thanks Not been on here for a while and have only just seen this, but we had a similar situation with a neighbour cutting our mixed hedge (during the nesting season too) well over the boundary. What we actually did was to put in a 2 metre high fence on the boundary. I appreciate that you already have a fence, but it might be worth replacing it with a higher one that she cannot reach over. That way you have solved the problem without any nastiness. -- Sally in Shropshire, UK Posted through uk.rec.gardening |
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"Sacha" wrote in message ... On 2011-03-22 15:49:10 +0000, Sally Thompson said: On Mon, 21 Mar 2011 21:21:15 +0000, Paul C wrote (in article ): 'Baz[_3_ Wrote: ;915543']Paul C wrote in news:Paul.C.7fa75b6 @gardenbanter.co.uk: - Hi, I wonder if any one can offer guidance on a problem that I have with a neighbour. A number of years ago we bought our house of a lady who moved into the cottage next door. What we hadn't appreciated was that she would (in our opinion) struggle to watch someone else do things differently in her former property. We have a shared boundary and in the past few years have experienced any number of issues with her apparent disregard for that boundary. On one part of the boundary fence we have a very well established ceanothus which does not extend over fence into her garden but has grown to about 18ins above the height of the fence. It also extends about 3 or 4 feet back into our garden. A couple of days ago I discovered that our neighbour had used a power tool with a long handled extension to lean over into our garden and cut away the shrub so that no part of it is above the line of the fence. When I challenged her about it she said it had been annoying her, when I pointed out that she had no right to do that and would she please stop interfering with us and our garden she simply said " what are you going to do about it" and "get a life". Bearing in mind that this lady has a laurel hedge on the same boundary fence that is at least 3 feet above the fence line and we have absolutely no issue with it, we are struggling to understand why she feels the need to do these things, but more importantly we just want her to stop. It is only a hedge, and we don't want to " lose the plot" but this is just one of a series of incidents and is beginning to get us down. We have no interest in " tit for tat" activities but we do need to do something to make this stop. Any thoughts would be much appreciated. Paul - You could try befriending her. She might be lonely and seeking attention. Cut some flowers that you might have, invite her over for drinks or a meal. You might enjoy her company. Of course she might be a stubborn and spiteful old bat, but I have found a little bit of friendliness can soften the hardest heart. Baz Thank you to everyone for taking the time to post comments. We'veactually been in this situation for several years, ( and to the personwho mentioned that "its just a few twigs" there have been a series ofincidents). We've tried befriending her, a bottle of wine at Xmas etc,as a family we helped her when she had intruders in a field that sheowns and my son in particular spent quite alot of time helping to clearup. She runs a successful antiques business and I honestly don't believethat she has dementia, she is just used to getting her own way anddoesn't have time for people who disagree with her. In the greater scheme of things it isn't massively important, its justnot very pleasant to have someone damage parts of your property and thenlook you in the eye and say " so what are you going to do about it". I'll sleep on it for a few days and then decide what to do. Many thanks Not been on here for a while and have only just seen this, but we had a similar situation with a neighbour cutting our mixed hedge (during the nesting season too) well over the boundary. What we actually did was to put in a 2 metre high fence on the boundary. I appreciate that you already have a fence, but it might be worth replacing it with a higher one that she cannot reach over. That way you have solved the problem without any nastiness. And possibly a plastic coated metal one that can't be hacked back with shears or easily damaged? Grow very prickly things on the boundary? Or simply say that this behaviour is unacceptable, you don't want things to escalate but if you have to take further steps you will - all done politely, pleasantly but firmly. It sounds to me as if she's trying it on. I think the fact you've posted here in a calm fashion, asking for help and advice, indicates you're not likely to go off the deep end and she knows it but likes something to 'shove against'. Perhaps it's time for a gentle 'shove' back. I have known another elderly woman who actually 'needed' someone to fight with, strong-minded, intelligent, used to getting her own way etc. This sounds like just such another. A firm but polite approach in which you hold your ground may be needed here. -- Sacha South Devon Like I said before right at the beginning of the thread ....... """"Paul if it has gone this far and now 'looks' as if it might get nasty without 'action from outside' to put her in her place, and let's face it, what she has done is certainly not on, then I would do what I did before when I had a bit of neighbour problem. A Solicitor's letter. I had a very large garden with 28 gardens backing onto it. 26 superb and I spent hours chatting to them instead of working, however, 2 needed a letter. One was coming onto the land and scattering rubbish which included bricks etc, the other didn't want the hedge I put on the boundary and ran across the bottom of their garden and sprayed weed killer on it. Put a stop to both of them. They've got flats there now instead ;-) Kindest POSSIBLE regards Mike :-))) And what a wonderful day it has been :-)) -- .................................... Don't take life too seriously, you'll never get out alive .................................... |
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