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"Sacha" wrote in message ... On 2011-08-10 10:39:20 +0100, Kay said: On 09/08/2011 17:39, in article , "Sacha" wrote: I appreciate what you're saying, Kay but Harry's remark was not inclined towards working for the benefit of the community as a whole, but more to hoping he could fool the trouble into becoming someone else's problem. If there's a problem area, all the people in that street, or on that estate, working *together* may produce a result. "Pull up the ladder, Jack" won't do it. AIUI, there are areas where crime has been pretty bad but where determined residents have managed to clean it up and get their lives back in their own hands again. But have they got rid of the crime or merely displaced it? Changing the subject - we have a problem (as most places do) of where do older teenagers go when they want to get together with their mates? They don't want to be sitting under the eye of their parents - and, indeed, parents, especially those without large houses, don't really want half a dozen noisy young males in the house. So residents complain, and they get displaced from Morrisons car park - but they haven't decided to stay at home, instead they've moved to the field opposite the sheltered bungalows. There are so many underlying problems leading to this sort of behaviour that at present, I think people can only tackle what affects *them*. The wider picture and - perhaps - a solution may then start to emerge. But the first step seems to be to show people like Baz's criminal that criminal acts won't be tolerated by anyone in that street/estate/community. I think what an experience such as Baz's shows us is that the softly softly approach by politicians, who then instruct the police and the judiciary, simply doesn't work. Back to the days of "if you can't do the time, don't do the crime". As to what is done about youths who kicked around, bored and so forth, I wish I had an answer. Youth Clubs used to be a solution but no doubt these are now deeply uncool. But it seems to me that there are two answers to this, firstly, parents should always know where thir children are, who they're with and what time they are expected home. And secondly, children have to learn their place on the 'ladder' - being 'bored' or whatever the excuse is, does not give them the right to be a damned nuisance to others. Perhaps *their* parents have to get together and organise themselves and their children into areas where they can enjoy each other's company without upsettinig neighbours. I know this sounds simplistic and perhaps, idealistic but until parents do start to demonstrate concern, interest and that actions have consequences, why should their children think otherwise? I'm talking about a return to basic parenting where every family has to take responsibility for how children are raised and for teaching them how to live within the wider world without being a pain to everyone around them. We can all only do that in our own small way, starting with ensuring those who cause nuisance or crime are dealt with. -- Sacha With so many marriages, if they bother to get married in the first place, breaking up and couples flitting from couple to couple, how do you expect the 'Family Home' to be a Unit? Brothers and Sisters might not even know which 'Father' is which. As a family which has stuck together for over 54 years, I still have the same wife, and all of the children, all four of them, have the same Mother and Father, I am sometimes not at all amazed that the 'Family Unit' has gone out of the window. How many readers of this newsgroup have the same partner they started out with over 30 years ago? Mike -- .................................... Don't take life too seriously, you'll never get out alive. .................................... |
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'Mike' wrote:
How many readers of this newsgroup have the same partner they started out with over 30 years ago? I'll have to hold my hand up and admit that my 'boyfriend' from primary school has a location totally unknown to me ... |
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"'Mike'" wrote in message ... "Sacha" wrote in message ... On 2011-08-10 10:39:20 +0100, Kay said: On 09/08/2011 17:39, in article , "Sacha" wrote: I appreciate what you're saying, Kay but Harry's remark was not inclined towards working for the benefit of the community as a whole, but more to hoping he could fool the trouble into becoming someone else's problem. If there's a problem area, all the people in that street, or on that estate, working *together* may produce a result. "Pull up the ladder, Jack" won't do it. AIUI, there are areas where crime has been pretty bad but where determined residents have managed to clean it up and get their lives back in their own hands again. But have they got rid of the crime or merely displaced it? Changing the subject - we have a problem (as most places do) of where do older teenagers go when they want to get together with their mates? They don't want to be sitting under the eye of their parents - and, indeed, parents, especially those without large houses, don't really want half a dozen noisy young males in the house. So residents complain, and they get displaced from Morrisons car park - but they haven't decided to stay at home, instead they've moved to the field opposite the sheltered bungalows. There are so many underlying problems leading to this sort of behaviour that at present, I think people can only tackle what affects *them*. The wider picture and - perhaps - a solution may then start to emerge. But the first step seems to be to show people like Baz's criminal that criminal acts won't be tolerated by anyone in that street/estate/community. I think what an experience such as Baz's shows us is that the softly softly approach by politicians, who then instruct the police and the judiciary, simply doesn't work. Back to the days of "if you can't do the time, don't do the crime". As to what is done about youths who kicked around, bored and so forth, I wish I had an answer. Youth Clubs used to be a solution but no doubt these are now deeply uncool. But it seems to me that there are two answers to this, firstly, parents should always know where thir children are, who they're with and what time they are expected home. And secondly, children have to learn their place on the 'ladder' - being 'bored' or whatever the excuse is, does not give them the right to be a damned nuisance to others. Perhaps *their* parents have to get together and organise themselves and their children into areas where they can enjoy each other's company without upsettinig neighbours. I know this sounds simplistic and perhaps, idealistic but until parents do start to demonstrate concern, interest and that actions have consequences, why should their children think otherwise? I'm talking about a return to basic parenting where every family has to take responsibility for how children are raised and for teaching them how to live within the wider world without being a pain to everyone around them. We can all only do that in our own small way, starting with ensuring those who cause nuisance or crime are dealt with. -- Sacha With so many marriages, if they bother to get married in the first place, breaking up and couples flitting from couple to couple, how do you expect the 'Family Home' to be a Unit? Brothers and Sisters might not even know which 'Father' is which. As a family which has stuck together for over 54 years, I still have the same wife, and all of the children, all four of them, have the same Mother and Father, I am sometimes not at all amazed that the 'Family Unit' has gone out of the window. How many readers of this newsgroup have the same partner they started out with over 30 years ago? Mike -- Governments have been trying to destroy the family unit for years now. As you reap... http://www.2012theawakening.com/?cat=87 http://www.hyscience.com/archives/20...re_fatherl.php ................................... Don't take life too seriously, you'll never get out alive. ................................... |
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Kay wrote:
So the trick is how to identify the 6% of the 30% and deal with them effectively, and not take action that will turn the 94% into unemployable ex-cons rather than useful contributing members of society.. A clever trick that fits nicely into the "easier said than done" box, I suspect. |
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Sacha wrote:
We have, also, a modern culture that requires the adults to stop speaking when mini-Fred opens his mouth. In my day - (harumph) - it was "hush, the adults are speaking". I say that now to my grandchildren if they interrupt and their parents say it too. But some young parents have looked at me as if I came from Planet Monster. I think there's a fine line there, between "wait your turn to speak" and pushing a child into a position where they don't feel confident enough to speak because they feel they will be ignored and their opinion isn't valid. (I tell Nick off for his frequent dismissing of Benjamin's comments as 'silly' or 'rubbish' - it's not a healthy way to encourage a child's development if they don't feel they can speak out) |
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writes I agree with you entirely. One can argue the point with children so as to give them something to think about. -- Sacha www.hillhousenursery.com South Devon Except (imho) in instances when a quick deterrent would be infinitely better such as when the child starts to run out in the road without looking or waves a knife around or pokes something into a socket, or starts lighting matches, etc, then you have no time to stand and debate the point, sometimes it's necessary to just stop the behaviour. -- Janet Tweedy Dalmatian Telegraph http://www.lancedal.demon.co.uk |
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On Thu, 11 Aug 2011 14:27:20 +0100, Janet Tweedy wrote:
One can argue the point with children so as to give them something to think about. Yeah, yeah, what ever... That is all the attention you will get from a teenager if that. From the out of control effectively parentless oiks recently running wild you more likely to get abuse, only maybe only verbal but I wouldn't like to bet on it not being physical abuse either. Less than about five it reasoned discussion isn't that effective either, they don't have the langauge or proper understanding. It might work from five to teenage but dependant entirely on how the child has been brought up before five. If the child has had very little discipline instilled talking is just a waste of your breath. Except (imho) in instances when a quick deterrent would be infinitely better such as when the child starts to run out in the road without looking ... Quite, my daughter wasn't very old wehn she dashed into the road outside the primary school. I lunged and grabbed her shoulder and I suspect picked her up by it and plonked here back on the pavement. Boy was she surprised, not upset, just shocked. She *never* did it again and has always respected traffic and the road since. or waves a knife around or pokes something into a socket, or starts lighting matches, etc, then you have no time to stand and debate the point, sometimes it's necessary to just stop the behaviour. Agreed the slap on the wrist or very definate *NO* or *STOP* works far better than a "oh darling, I'd rather you didn't poke that bit of wire into the socket as you might get hurt". -- Cheers Dave. |
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In article , Sacha
writes Ah yes, that's a different thing altogether. The only time I've smacked our grandson was on the hand when he started showing too much interest in a socket. -- I also think in life there are situations where one has to comply and there isn't the chance for discussion, Speed limits, one way streets, most legal Either it's allowed or not and you choose to contravene regs at your peril. Life isn't like that, children who think they can argue the toss at every turn will turn into adults who will feel able to do the same! I would find it highly entertaining to go into courts and listen to the criminal putting up a strong case for why he thumped the living daylights out of someone or drove at 120 mph when he was ina 30 mile and hour speed restricted zone. That's what society does, lay down general rules which if obeyed makes life easier for the majority NOT the minority! But then I used to read the Telegraph NOT the Guardian -- Janet Tweedy |
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In message , Janet Tweedy
writes [....] I would find it highly entertaining to go into courts and listen to the criminal putting up a strong case for why he thumped the living daylights out of someone or drove at 120 mph when he was ina 30 mile and hour speed restricted zone. That's what society does, lay down general rules which if obeyed makes life easier for the majority NOT the minority! If he/she had enough money, he/she could engage that slimy lawyer to find some anomaly in the paperwork relating to the case, and would likely walk free. This country has the best justice money can buy. But then I used to read the Telegraph NOT the Guardian I'd never have guessed! -- Gordon H Remove "invalid" to reply |
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In article , Gordon H
writes But then I used to read the Telegraph NOT the Guardian I'd never have guessed! -- Janet Tweedy Dalmatian Telegraph http://www.lancedal.demon.co.uk |
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