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A cousin of mine lost her daughter to cancer a short while ago.
She raised the following question. A man who loses his wife is a widower, a woman who loses her husband is a widow, a child who loses a parent is an orphan. Why is there no word in the English language for a parent who loses a child? David @ the wet and windy end of Swansea Bay |
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"David Hill" wrote in message
... A cousin of mine lost her daughter to cancer a short while ago. She raised the following question. A man who loses his wife is a widower, a woman who loses her husband is a widow, a child who loses a parent is an orphan. Why is there no word in the English language for a parent who loses a child? Perhaps because before 1900 this was so common: most parents lost at least one child to illness, i.e. bereavement was normal and required no special word. -- Don Phillipson Carlsbad Springs (Ottawa, Canada) |
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"Don Phillipson" wrote in message
... "David Hill" wrote in message ... A cousin of mine lost her daughter to cancer a short while ago. She raised the following question. A man who loses his wife is a widower, a woman who loses her husband is a widow, a child who loses a parent is an orphan. Why is there no word in the English language for a parent who loses a child? Perhaps because before 1900 this was so common: most parents lost at least one child to illness, i.e. bereavement was normal and required no special word. I'd also suggest that there's no easy way to tell if a family is missing a child as there is no set number of children they should have. In the other situations, there is: one spouse or two parents; any fewer and it's clear something has happened, either a death or a family break-up. -- Gordon Davie Edinburgh, Scotland "Slipped the surly bonds of Earth...to touch the face of God." |
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On Oct 18, 3:30*pm, "GordonD" wrote:
"Don Phillipson" wrote in message ... "David Hill" wrote in message ... A cousin of mine lost her daughter to cancer a short while ago. She raised the following question. A man who loses his wife is a widower, a woman who loses her husband is a widow, a child who loses a parent is an orphan. *Why is there no word in the English language for a parent who loses a child? Perhaps because before 1900 this was so common: *most parents lost at least one child to illness, i.e. bereavement was normal and required no special word. I'd also suggest that there's no easy way to tell if a family is missing a child as there is no set number of children they should have. In the other situations, there is: one spouse or two parents; any fewer and it's clear something has happened, either a death or a family break-up. And also because being orphaned as a child and being widowed (in the old days) made drastic changes in one's social, economic, and legal position, requiring the help that's mentioned so often in the Bible. (I don't think it mentions taking care of widowers.) -- Jerry Friedman |
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On 10/18/2012 7:12 PM, Jerry Friedman wrote:
And also because being orphaned as a child and being widowed (in the old days) made drastic changes in one's social, economic, and legal position, requiring the help that's mentioned so often in the Bible. (I don't think it mentions taking care of widowers.) Widowers often found a new, young wife. Widows often didn't find a new husband. |
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"GordonD" wrote in message
... "Don Phillipson" wrote in message ... "David Hill" wrote in message ... A cousin of mine lost her daughter to cancer a short while ago. She raised the following question. A man who loses his wife is a widower, a woman who loses her husband is a widow, a child who loses a parent is an orphan. Why is there no word in the English language for a parent who loses a child? Perhaps because before 1900 this was so common: most parents lost at least one child to illness, i.e. bereavement was normal and required no special word. I'd also suggest that there's no easy way to tell if a family is missing a child as there is no set number of children they should have. In the other situations, there is: one spouse or two parents; any fewer and it's clear something has happened, either a death or a family break-up. Family trees of the 18th and 19th centuries seem to confirm the normality of death before maturity. Some of my ancestors applied the same Christian name to three successive children (because the first two died in infancy.) The implication is that such families did not feel they were "missing a child." -- Don Phillipson Carlsbad Springs (Ottawa, Canada) |
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On Thu, 18 Oct 2012 19:20:13 -0400, S Viemeister
wrote: On 10/18/2012 7:12 PM, Jerry Friedman wrote: And also because being orphaned as a child and being widowed (in the old days) made drastic changes in one's social, economic, and legal position, requiring the help that's mentioned so often in the Bible. (I don't think it mentions taking care of widowers.) Widowers often found a new, young wife. Widows often didn't find a new husband. Unless they had become wealthy on the death of their husband (or in their own right). Penniless male members of the aristocracy have always looked for rich women to marry, widows being no exception to someone past his oats-sowing days. -- Robin Bignall (BrE) Herts, England |
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On Oct 18, 2:50*pm, "Don Phillipson" wrote:
"David Hill" wrote in message ... A cousin of mine lost her daughter to cancer a short while ago. She raised the following question. A man who loses his wife is a widower, a woman who loses her husband is a widow, a child who loses a parent is an orphan. *Why is there no word in the English language for a parent who loses a child? Perhaps because before 1900 this was so common: *most parents lost at least one child to illness, i.e. bereavement was normal and required no special word. You can make the same argument about parents or spouses before 1900. Mortality was quite common, people hardly made it to thetr 70s. I agree with Mr. Friedman: a change in status required a special word. Until what age can someone claim the orphan status? I never considered my grandparents as orphans although all their parents died before I was born. |
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On Oct 18, 7:12*pm, Jerry Friedman wrote:
On Oct 18, 3:30*pm, "GordonD" wrote: "Don Phillipson" wrote in message ... "David Hill" wrote in message ... A cousin of mine lost her daughter to cancer a short while ago. She raised the following question. A man who loses his wife is a widower, a woman who loses her husband is a widow, a child who loses a parent is an orphan. *Why is there no word in the English language for a parent who loses a child? Perhaps because before 1900 this was so common: *most parents lost at least one child to illness, i.e. bereavement was normal and required no special word. I'd also suggest that there's no easy way to tell if a family is missing a child as there is no set number of children they should have. In the other situations, there is: one spouse or two parents; any fewer and it's clear something has happened, either a death or a family break-up. And also because being orphaned as a child and being widowed (in the old days) made drastic changes in one's social, economic, and legal position, requiring the help that's mentioned so often in the Bible. (I don't think it mentions taking care of widowers.) Wasn't a brother supposed to take care, even marry, the widow of his deceased brother? |
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On 10/18/2012 8:56 PM, Arcadian Rises wrote:
Wasn't a brother supposed to take care, even marry, the widow of his deceased brother? In the Old Testament, yes. Not all that long ago in the UK, it was against the law to marry your deceased spouse's sibling. |
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On Oct 18, 6:12*pm, S Viemeister wrote:
On 10/18/2012 8:56 PM, Arcadian Rises wrote: Wasn't a brother supposed to take care, even marry, the widow of his deceased brother? In the Old Testament, yes. Not all that long ago in the UK, it was against the law to marry your deceased spouse's sibling. But it WAS the Old Testament, specifically Leviticus Chapter 20, Verse 16, which stated: “If a man shall take his brother’s wife, it is an impurity; he hath uncovered his brother’s nakedness; they shall be childless” that Henry VIII claimed as the reason for his divorce from Catherine of Aragon. Despite the birth and good health of their daughter Mary, Henry was convinced that a woman could not rule England and that God had denied him his desired male heir as a fulfillment of the Biblical sanction against his marriage to his brother Arthur's widow (even though there were many who testified that marriage had never been consummated AND the fact that the Pope had authorized the subsequent wedding, setting aside the stricture and removing any bar to their union.) |
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On 18/10/2012 2:47 PM, Don Phillipson wrote:
"David Hill" wrote: A cousin of mine lost her daughter to cancer a short while ago. She raised the following question. A man who loses his wife is a widower, a woman who loses her husband is a widow, a child who loses a parent is an orphan. Why is there no word in the English language for a parent who loses a child? Your cousin is a bereaved mother. Perhaps because before 1900 this was so common: most parents lost at least one child to illness, i.e. bereavement was normal and required no special word. Hitching for the usual reason; sorry. |
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On 19/10/12 8:56 AM, Arcadian Rises wrote:
Wasn't a brother supposed to take care, even marry, the widow of his deceased brother? Poor old Onan wasn't too happy about that. -- Robert Bannister |
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On 19/10/12 9:28 AM, Nasti J wrote:
On Oct 18, 6:12 pm, S Viemeister wrote: On 10/18/2012 8:56 PM, Arcadian Rises wrote: Wasn't a brother supposed to take care, even marry, the widow of his deceased brother? In the Old Testament, yes. Not all that long ago in the UK, it was against the law to marry your deceased spouse's sibling. But it WAS the Old Testament, specifically Leviticus Chapter 20, Verse 16, which stated: “If a man shall take his brother’s wife, it is an impurity; he hath uncovered his brother’s nakedness; they shall be childless” that Henry VIII claimed as the reason for his divorce from Catherine of Aragon. Despite the birth and good health of their daughter Mary, Henry was convinced that a woman could not rule England and that God had denied him his desired male heir as a fulfillment of the Biblical sanction against his marriage to his brother Arthur's widow (even though there were many who testified that marriage had never been consummated AND the fact that the Pope had authorized the subsequent wedding, setting aside the stricture and removing any bar to their union.) I don't think he was convinced of that at all. He just knew he needed a male heir, and when the only one he could get was sickly, in the long run we ended up with a line of disastrous Scots, followed by Dutch couple, followed by Germans. He had, of course, foreseen all this and was desperate. -- Robert Bannister |
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Don Phillipson wrote:
"David Hill" wrote in message ... A cousin of mine lost her daughter to cancer a short while ago. She raised the following question. A man who loses his wife is a widower, a woman who loses her husband is a widow, a child who loses a parent is an orphan. Why is there no word in the English language for a parent who loses a child? Perhaps because before 1900 this was so common: most parents lost at least one child to illness, i.e. bereavement was normal and required no special word. Back in the days of my youth, I took part in a Historical Survey of a mining area in Cornwall, and one of the things we did was to survey the local graveyards for the years 1720 -1890.. We were all struck by the number of gravestones listing the names of children who had died in infancy and we buried in the family plot. In one case, 13 children 11 of whom died in infancy. One grave, which I shall never forget in St Cleer graveyar near to Liskeard, was dedicated to the memory of a girl who died aged 16 years of age. It bore the following epitaph. "Pray spare a thought as you pass by, As you are now so once was I. As I am now, so will you be, So be prepared to follow me" All food for thought. It was a very harrowing experience. Peter -- It is necessary for the good man to do nothing for evil to triumph. Attributed to Edmund Burke 1729 - 1797 |
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