Hi

I've been trying to find a solution to the problem of keeping a floral
presence on my mum's grave when my siblings and I are too far away to
guarantee any kind of regular maintenance.

She loved Poppies and someone suggested a pot on her grave with some
poppies in it which would then self seed on an annual basis but
thinking about pots in my garden and what happens when they're not
regularly watered, even in the UK climate this sounds like a bit of a
pipe dream to me. My experience is that he things you want to grow in
the pots die and then more hardy weeds and grass take over until
there's a longer dry spell and then they die too and what you're left
with ends up looking like a section of the tundra. In this case
there''s a very high chance the whole thing would end up looking
neglected which is the last thing we'd want.

Can anyone feed back on the above and offer any solutions?

TIA

M

louisxiv wrote in message ...
Hi

I've been trying to find a solution to the problem of keeping a floral
presence on my mum's grave when my siblings and I are too far away to
guarantee any kind of regular maintenance.

She loved Poppies and someone suggested a pot on her grave with some
poppies in it which would then self seed on an annual basis but thinking
about pots in my garden and what happens when they're not regularly
watered, even in the UK climate this sounds like a bit of a pipe dream to
me. My experience is that he things you want to grow in the pots die and
then more hardy weeds and grass take over until there's a longer dry spell
and then they die too and what you're left with ends up looking like a
section of the tundra. In this case there''s a very high chance the whole
thing would end up looking neglected which is the last thing we'd want.

Can anyone feed back on the above and offer any solutions?

TIA

M


If you can visit 4 times a year, a pot with a posy of silk flowers 'of the
season'

Been there, done that with my father in law's grave.

Mike


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Don't take life too seriously, you'll never get out alive.

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On 07/11/2011 11:37 AM, louisxiv wrote:
Hi

I've been trying to find a solution to the problem of keeping a floral
presence on my mum's grave when my siblings and I are too far away to
guarantee any kind of regular maintenance.


This is a tough problem and I'm very interested in any solutions... My
Mum's grave is near Camarthen and I don't get there often.

-E

"Emery Davis" wrote in message
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On 07/11/2011 11:37 AM, louisxiv wrote:
Hi

I've been trying to find a solution to the problem of keeping a floral
presence on my mum's grave when my siblings and I are too far away to
guarantee any kind of regular maintenance.


This is a tough problem and I'm very interested in any solutions... My
Mum's grave is near Camarthen and I don't get there often.

-E

If you can visit 4 times a year, a pot with a posy of silk flowers 'of the
season'

Been there, done that with my father in law's grave.

Mike

"'Mike'" wrote in message
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"Emery Davis" wrote in message
...
On 07/11/2011 11:37 AM, louisxiv wrote:
Hi

I've been trying to find a solution to the problem of keeping a floral
presence on my mum's grave when my siblings and I are too far away to
guarantee any kind of regular maintenance.


This is a tough problem and I'm very interested in any solutions... My
Mum's grave is near Camarthen and I don't get there often.

-E

If you can visit 4 times a year, a pot with a posy of silk flowers 'of the
season'

Been there, done that with my father in law's grave.

Mike


and it doesn't need permission, someone else's help or cost money :-))

Mike


--

....................................

Don't take life too seriously, you'll never get out alive.

....................................

On 07/11/2011 04:11 PM, Sacha wrote:
On 2011-07-11 14:00:32 +0100, Jake Nospam@invalid said:

On Mon, 11 Jul 2011 13:47:10 +0100, Sacha wrote:

On 2011-07-11 13:27:26 +0100, Emery Davis said:

On 07/11/2011 11:37 AM, louisxiv wrote:
Hi

I've been trying to find a solution to the problem of keeping a floral
presence on my mum's grave when my siblings and I are too far away to
guarantee any kind of regular maintenance.


This is a tough problem and I'm very interested in any solutions... My
Mum's grave is near Camarthen and I don't get there often.

-E

See my response above and it also occurs to me that members of the
local pcc might know of someone willing to do this - or the local vicar
might know. Sounds to me like the makings of a little business
opportunity to me!

It's a business opportunity that several companies have already taken
up, as a search on "grave tending" will reveal. Many companies will
send a photo or two of their visit so you are reassured that they are
doing the job. Choose carefully as costs vary substantially. If you
can't contact a vicar or PCC, try a local funeral director - some
offer this ongoing service either direct or through a contractor.

Good ideas both, I will try contacting the vicar. I have also seen silk
flowers used with good effect, but she had a lifelong and not entirely
reasonable hatred of them so to avoid future hauntings I'd best not go
there.

-E

"Emery Davis" wrote in message
...
On 07/11/2011 04:11 PM, Sacha wrote:
On 2011-07-11 14:00:32 +0100, Jake Nospam@invalid said:

On Mon, 11 Jul 2011 13:47:10 +0100, Sacha wrote:

On 2011-07-11 13:27:26 +0100, Emery Davis said:

On 07/11/2011 11:37 AM, louisxiv wrote:
Hi

I've been trying to find a solution to the problem of keeping a
floral
presence on my mum's grave when my siblings and I are too far away to
guarantee any kind of regular maintenance.


This is a tough problem and I'm very interested in any solutions... My
Mum's grave is near Camarthen and I don't get there often.

-E

See my response above and it also occurs to me that members of the
local pcc might know of someone willing to do this - or the local vicar
might know. Sounds to me like the makings of a little business
opportunity to me!

It's a business opportunity that several companies have already taken
up, as a search on "grave tending" will reveal. Many companies will
send a photo or two of their visit so you are reassured that they are
doing the job. Choose carefully as costs vary substantially. If you
can't contact a vicar or PCC, try a local funeral director - some
offer this ongoing service either direct or through a contractor.

Good ideas both, I will try contacting the vicar. I have also seen silk
flowers used with good effect, but she had a lifelong and not entirely
reasonable hatred of them so to avoid future hauntings I'd best not go
there.

-E

E, I promise you she will not know. ;-)

As to haunting, do you believe in ghosts?

:-))

Mike

--

....................................

Don't take life too seriously, you'll never get out alive.

....................................

"louisxiv" wrote ...
I've been trying to find a solution to the problem of keeping a floral
presence on my mum's grave when my siblings and I are too far away to
guarantee any kind of regular maintenance.

She loved Poppies and someone suggested a pot on her grave with some
poppies in it which would then self seed on an annual basis but thinking
about pots in my garden and what happens when they're not regularly
watered, even in the UK climate this sounds like a bit of a pipe dream to
me. My experience is that he things you want to grow in the pots die and
then more hardy weeds and grass take over until there's a longer dry spell
and then they die too and what you're left with ends up looking like a
section of the tundra. In this case there''s a very high chance the whole
thing would end up looking neglected which is the last thing we'd want.

Can anyone feed back on the above and offer any solutions?

In a similar situation myself Mum being buried on the S. coast. The problem
there is also that they only allow headstones and cut the grass with
strimmers during the summer so certainly can't have any summer stuff and
shrubs, roses etc are forbidden anyway.
To give some flower, after trying a pot of chionadoxa that dissappeared, I
planted those small early daffodils all over her grave together with the
blue chionadoxa, the flowers and leaves then finish before they start
cutting and the bulbs have survived and have increased. To remember her I
also planted the same bulbs at home which tells me when they should be
flowering on her grave. Now thinking perhaps some autumn flowering cyclamen
might do OK too and seeing as they appear to be taking over our front garden
it won't cost much to try some.

-- Regards
Bob Hobden
W.of London. UK

On 2011-07-11 23:09:06 +0100, Janet said:

In article , louisxiv says...

Can anyone feed back on the above and offer any solutions?

The poppy idea won't work IMO; weeds would seed into the pot and
poppy seeds need full light to germinate.
You will have to ask the cemetary owner what is permitted there.
Someone asked me for a permanent, rabbit proof planting at the foot of
their parents headstone (the graveyard gave permission). The deceased were
keen cooks and gardeners. I planted rosemary,(for remembrance) sage (for
wisdom) and thyme, plus snowdrops and minute narcissus minimus.


Janet.

Thanks everyone for your feedback. I've learned a lot from it, not
least that Dumfries and Galloway Council are likely to put the kibish
on most things anyway. I hadn't though ot bulbs though which I may well
try. Thanks again.