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Not lending tools, excuse
We have some new neighbours that have moved in next door and they ask to
borrow garden tools (and car tools). The problem for me is I have to go and ask for them back, and they are not always there. I wanted to use my garden rake today and went around to get it back, but they are out; so I cannot do the job. We like these neighbours and want to remain friends. What reason can I give to them not to lend my tools to them which will cause the minimal amount of friction? I'm looking for an imaginative (yet plausible) excuse to give them. |
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Not lending tools, excuse
john east wrote:
We have some new neighbours that have moved in next door and they ask to borrow garden tools (and car tools). The problem for me is I have to go and ask for them back, and they are not always there. I wanted to use my garden rake today and went around to get it back, but they are out; so I cannot do the job. We like these neighbours and want to remain friends. What reason can I give to them not to lend my tools to them which will cause the minimal amount of friction? I'm looking for an imaginative (yet plausible) excuse to give them. Just say no, until the previous loan is returned. Or just say no ... -- Paul - xxx |
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john east wrote: We have some new neighbours that have moved in next door and they ask to borrow garden tools (and car tools). The problem for me is I have to go and ask for them back, and they are not always there. I wanted to use my garden rake today and went around to get it back, but they are out; so I cannot do the job. We like these neighbours and want to remain friends. What reason can I give to them not to lend my tools to them which will cause the minimal amount of friction? I'm looking for an imaginative (yet plausible) excuse to give them. What you're doing is people pleasing or buying friendship. Neither is a good idea long term. I'll happily lend such stuff but expect it back immediately after use. If that doesn't happen without a good excuse, it shows a lack of respect. And I simply won't do so again. Anyone who can't accept this is best avoided. -- *I believe five out of four people have trouble with fractions. * Dave Plowman London SW To e-mail, change noise into sound. |
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Not lending tools, excuse
On 10/03/2011 09:43 AM, john east wrote:
We have some new neighbours that have moved in next door and they ask to borrow garden tools (and car tools). The problem for me is I have to go and ask for them back, and they are not always there. I wanted to use my garden rake today and went around to get it back, but they are out; so I cannot do the job. We like these neighbours and want to remain friends. What reason can I give to them not to lend my tools to them which will cause the minimal amount of friction? I'm looking for an imaginative (yet plausible) excuse to give them. 'I *really* don't want to fall out with you over this but unless things are returned immediately, then this is the last time. I hope you can understand how inconvenient it is, when I have a job to do'. Leave it at that but stick to your word. Andy C |
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Not lending tools, excuse
On Mon, 03 Oct 2011 09:43:51 +0100, john east wrote:
We have some new neighbours that have moved in next door and they ask to borrow garden tools (and car tools). The problem for me is I have to go and ask for them back, and they are not always there. I wanted to use my garden rake today and went around to get it back, but they are out; so I cannot do the job. We like these neighbours and want to remain friends. What reason can I give to them not to lend my tools to them which will cause the minimal amount of friction? I'm looking for an imaginative (yet plausible) excuse to give them. Wait until late at night, knock at their door and ask for the tool back as you need to early in the morning? Chris -- Remove prejudice to reply. |
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Not lending tools, excuse
On Mon, 03 Oct 2011 10:43:25 +0100, Dave Plowman (News) wrote:
I'll happily lend such stuff but expect it back immediately after use. If that doesn't happen without a good excuse, it shows a lack of respect. And I simply won't do so again. Anyone who can't accept this is best avoided. Aye, I detest lending any tools. There are three scenarios: Tool is not promptly returned. Tool is returned but damaged. Tool is promptly returned. 1 out 3 for a good result from the loan, not odds I like. These people have alraedy shown that they cannot be trusted to bring the tool back promptly and this has caused *you* inconvience. They are taking advantage, don't let 'em. -- Cheers Dave. |
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Why not suggest to your neighbours that they go to the next car-boot sale in your area and get some tools for themselves - usually the basics are available really inexpensively - One can generally pick up spades / forks / hoes / rakes for £2-£3 each. Alternative why not suggest they post a 'wanted' on Freecycle. If you do lend tools NEVER lend your secateurs !! |
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Not lending tools, excuse
john east wrote:
We have some new neighbours that have moved in next door and they ask to borrow garden tools (and car tools). The problem for me is I have to go and ask for them back, and they are not always there. I wanted to use my garden rake today and went around to get it back, but they are out; so I cannot do the job. We like these neighbours and want to remain friends. What reason can I give to them not to lend my tools to them which will cause the minimal amount of friction? I'm looking for an imaginative (yet plausible) excuse to give them. I usually just say that I have not got one, or that I have lent it to someone. |
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Not lending tools, excuse
On 3/10/2011 7:43 PM, john east wrote:
We have some new neighbours that have moved in next door and they ask to borrow garden tools (and car tools). The problem for me is I have to go and ask for them back, and they are not always there. I wanted to use my garden rake today and went around to get it back, but they are out; so I cannot do the job. We like these neighbours and want to remain friends. What reason can I give to them not to lend my tools to them which will cause the minimal amount of friction? I'm looking for an imaginative (yet plausible) excuse to give them. You know the rules after you lend a tool you then want to use it yourself. Happens all the time. |
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Not lending tools, excuse
"Andy Cap" wrote in message o.uk... On 10/03/2011 09:43 AM, john east wrote: We have some new neighbours that have moved in next door and they ask to borrow garden tools (and car tools). The problem for me is I have to go and ask for them back, and they are not always there. I wanted to use my garden rake today and went around to get it back, but they are out; so I cannot do the job. We like these neighbours and want to remain friends. What reason can I give to them not to lend my tools to them which will cause the minimal amount of friction? I'm looking for an imaginative (yet plausible) excuse to give them. 'I *really* don't want to fall out with you over this but unless things are returned immediately, then this is the last time. I hope you can understand how inconvenient it is, when I have a job to do'. Leave it at that but stick to your word. Is the correct answer. Honest and truthful. Each knows where they stand. JB |
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Then in future set a time limit for bringing them back, and enforce it. That way, you will definitely have your tool when you need it. |
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Not lending tools, excuse
On Mon, 3 Oct 2011 09:43:51 +0100, "john east"
wrote: We have some new neighbours that have moved in next door and they ask to borrow garden tools (and car tools). The problem for me is I have to go and ask for them back, and they are not always there. I wanted to use my garden rake today and went around to get it back, but they are out; so I cannot do the job. We like these neighbours and want to remain friends. What reason can I give to them not to lend my tools to them which will cause the minimal amount of friction? I'm looking for an imaginative (yet plausible) excuse to give them. My stock answer is that I won't lend tools because if something breaks while on loan it can be very difficult to work out whether it broke because of bad handling or because it was wearing out anyway and I hadn't noticed. This applies particularly to power tools. Avoids all sorts of possibilities for embarrassment. Cheers, Jake ================================================== ========== URGling from the less wet end of Swansea Bay whilst enjoying a brief respite from leaf collecting and planning a new career as a snail-tamer.. www.rivendell.org.uk |
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Not lending tools, excuse
"john east" wrote
We have some new neighbours that have moved in next door and they ask to borrow garden tools (and car tools). The problem for me is I have to go and ask for them back, and they are not always there. I wanted to use my garden rake today and went around to get it back, but they are out; so I cannot do the job. We like these neighbours and want to remain friends. What reason can I give to them not to lend my tools to them which will cause the minimal amount of friction? I'm looking for an imaginative (yet plausible) excuse to give them. Like you I always had to go and ask for my tools back when the borrower should have returned them once they had done the job. They are the ones that should feel guilty not you, think how much money these people are saving by not buying tools, they obviously think people like us are total mugs, to be taken advantage of. Happened to me many times, you think I would have learnt quicker. Must have cost me over £500 replacing tools when I eventually got them back broken/knackered. I simply don't lend stuff any more 'cause I will be using it for ........ shortly, although I have gone and done small jobs myself for friends but then they can't keep and use them until they break. Just explain what has happened in the past and say I'm afraid I don't lend stuff any more, it's too expensive to replace. If they take offence, at least they get the message. -- Regards. Bob Hobden. Posted to this Newsgroup from the W of London, UK |
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Not lending tools, excuse
On Mon, 3 Oct 2011 09:43:51 +0100, "john east"
wrote: We have some new neighbours that have moved in next door and they ask to borrow garden tools (and car tools). The problem for me is I have to go and ask for them back, and they are not always there. I wanted to use my garden rake today and went around to get it back, but they are out; so I cannot do the job. We like these neighbours and want to remain friends. What reason can I give to them not to lend my tools to them which will cause the minimal amount of friction? I'm looking for an imaginative (yet plausible) excuse to give them. "My friend who is a lawyer says I shouldn't lend tools because I could be liable if people injure themselves with them" I don't know whether this is actually true but it worked for me. |
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