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"FlowerGirl" wrote: "eggs" wrote in message news:seggleto- How far north of the border are you? Bris-Vegas ... by the bay and ~ 15 minutes drive from the Gateway Bridge and with very simple directions to get here. Kettles on....(or perhaps I should say the bubbly is chillin) A Hmmmm. My trip up the coast will only be a flying stop for a wedding. I might be up for a border run in the July holidays. I've always wanted a tree with an actual pedigree ... eggs. |
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g'day amanda,
On Sat, 24 Mar 2007 04:15:31 GMT, "FlowerGirl" wrote: "len garden" wrote in message .. . snipped With all due respect Len, its a very different world today than when you were small or when your own kids were small. Just think of the reidiculous insurance claims for a start. AND I do know of kids from my Dad's era who died from plant poisoning (castor bean no less), so its not really a generational thing. i wasn't saying kids or anyone never suffered even fataly, but you still can't cotton woll them with any more guarantees that something won't happen, it still comes back to parenting. just recently now we ahve ahd 2 deaths involving contained water one in a pool with the obligatory required fence the otehr in a horse trough in the middle of a horse enclosure (these unfortunate people sadly also lost another child 3 years ago the same way). and not that long ago another child who apparently had an epileptic fit in a pool swimming unsupervised. you still can't get away from making poarents responsible and take away the road to litigation. litigation is not saving paind or death sad to say. snipped I see you point Len, but bare in mind, people take a lot of offence if their parenting skills are questioned. Childcare was probably not a major option in your young day - its a necesary thing in today's world and a parent has a right to expect that the environment is safe if they are paying for a person to caer for their child in that environment. of course i would expect subjective parents to take offense what other defense ahve they got for not being objective and that does not take from the debate, just because someone doesn't like the truth under the morale "if the shoe fits wear it" then they beter get their act into gear and become responsible then there may be some hope that some of those unfortunate incidences will cease. all that is ahppening amanda is the regulators are bringing in bamdaides in an effort to save trauma, lets get back to the difficult course of "cause & effect" and find the real cause to issues not target and effect and try and fix it from that end. take pool fences just this summer there have been at least 4 deaths still and that is only the ones we here about, so pool fences aren't working because they are a band aide, without too much trouble at all these pool incicences can all be bouhgt home to bad parenting. snipped Again Len - not wanting to have a go at you, but do you perhaps think that a) there are considerably more cars on the road now than back in the olden days? and b) that kids still did stupid things back then but it might not have made the evening news. From what I know from my parents and grandparents era, it wasn't uncommon to have had a sibling die from an accident of some sort .... or an illness that hadn't been described. i know that amanda but the regulator doesn't seem to know that neither do the educators or the parents or the standard of road safety education would be elevated at the same level as the road traffic and population grows. not wait for something to hapen then band aid it. don't where you r parents/grandparents lived but i was a kid and we lost none of our friends to accidents or poisonings. if i was amanda i wouldn't be too keen on signing off on anything like that nowadays it smells of scapegoating. Sorry - its the kindy that has to sign off, and I'm not officially offering an expert opinion so I'm not signing. Its interesting to get this "generational" discussion though. Amanda thanks for the cross post i have never been in this sort of discussion before, we as grandparents & parents would hate to lose any of our children/grandchildren to any of those preventable accicents that is why we are so high on proactivity and prevention. this wait until the horse has bolted before closing the gate system we seem to have is reactive and so far isn't preventive long term because the real causes are treated as sacred cows. we are not allowed to point the finger at bad parenting. i am not highlighting those with special needs they need special circumstances, the cases i have mentioned apart from one where totaly preventable if the parents where dispatching their responsibilities responsibly. my heart goes out to the grandparents (my status) and the parents of that family that lost 2 toddlers in 3 years in same like circumstances on the same property. please forgive my typo's With peace and brightest of blessings, len & bev -- "Be Content With What You Have And May You Find Serenity and Tranquillity In A World That You May Not Understand." http://www.lensgarden.com.au/ |
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g'day chris,
it is still the parents responsibility to ascertain they are not for the sake of convenience leaving their children in a less than desirable situation, there are many pressures on modern parents for both to work for the families betterment. maybe a safer option for families if families became more extended and grandparents took on the child care duties for their married siblings, might be subsidy money better spent than try and regulate a profit making industry that may just have its priorities wrong. the ceo of one such child care group proundlu lauds his status from this profit making venture by flaunting his ferarri cars. think outside the square maybe? On Sat, 24 Mar 2007 18:51:32 +1100, "Nina Pretty Ballerina" wrote: snipped With peace and brightest of blessings, len & bev -- "Be Content With What You Have And May You Find Serenity and Tranquillity In A World That You May Not Understand." http://www.lensgarden.com.au/ |
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On Sun, 25 Mar 2007 18:58:47 GMT, len garden
wrote: maybe a safer option for families if families became more extended and grandparents took on the child care duties for their married siblings, (I assume you mean married children, although they aren't the only children that will be requiring childcare) That's fine for those who chose to have their children at a young age, but it's not so good for those who didn't have children before their late 30's/early 40's. Their parents would be heading into their 70's and trying to look after very active toddlers, which could be a recipe for disaster. The next generation, those of us who had children later, could potentially be nearly 80 before our first grandchildren are born. Cheryl |
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there are a lot of grandparents out there who are more than capable of
looking after their offsprings offsprings. just the gov' would have too many strings attached for it to work, so we get the pleasuer of filling in the gaps for the gov' for nought while the gov' subsudises profits into private franchises. be proactive not reactive. rearing children is a family matter prinarily and community/society matter secondary, we seem to be putting all our eggs into the secondary basket. On Mon, 26 Mar 2007 07:49:53 +1000, Cheryl wrote: snipped With peace and brightest of blessings, len & bev -- "Be Content With What You Have And May You Find Serenity and Tranquillity In A World That You May Not Understand." http://www.lensgarden.com.au/ |
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"FlowerGirl" writes:
(I also remember tutoring a poisonous plants class at uni and having a 19 yo student pretend to eat a castor oil seed right after I emphasized that all the plants were poisonous so to wear gloves, not touch their faces and to wash their hands well and often. ... so I guess there's no accounting for some.) The giant-leafed weed we know as the castor oil plant and find growing on disturbed wasteland -- is it that the self same plant from which castor oil is commercially extracted? -- John Savage (my news address is not valid for email) |
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"len garden" wrote in message ... g'day amanda, On Sat, 24 Mar 2007 04:15:31 GMT, "FlowerGirl" wrote: "len garden" wrote in message .. . snipped With all due respect Len, its a very different world today than when you were small or when your own kids were small. Just think of the reidiculous insurance claims for a start. AND I do know of kids from my Dad's era who died from plant poisoning (castor bean no less), so its not really a generational thing. i wasn't saying kids or anyone never suffered even fataly, but you still can't cotton woll them with any more guarantees that something won't happen, it still comes back to parenting. just recently now we ahve ahd 2 deaths involving contained water one in a pool with the obligatory required fence the otehr in a horse trough in the middle of a horse enclosure (these unfortunate people sadly also lost another child 3 years ago the same way). Which is a heartbreaking case ... but Len, I think you'll find the number of backyard pool drownings has decreased since fencing became mandatory - and sorry, but I don't think this is "cotton balling" children. and not that long ago another child who apparently had an epileptic fit in a pool swimming unsupervised. you still can't get away from making poarents responsible and take away the road to litigation. litigation is not saving paind or death sad to say. snipped I see you point Len, but bare in mind, people take a lot of offence if their parenting skills are questioned. Childcare was probably not a major option in your young day - its a necesary thing in today's world and a parent has a right to expect that the environment is safe if they are paying for a person to caer for their child in that environment. of course i would expect subjective parents to take offense what other defense ahve they got for not being objective and that does not take from the debate, just because someone doesn't like the truth under the morale "if the shoe fits wear it" then they beter get their act into gear and become responsible then there may be some hope that some of those unfortunate incidences will cease. Wait on a minute - I don't think you are actually being very objective in your assumption that its the fault of "parents of today" and seemingly not admitting any mistakes from previous generations. I personally would have to say the standard of parenting in today's world is actually an improvement on the mistakes made in the past myself. ... but that's my opinion. ... and I myself have a mother who should be sainted as the best mother of all time (she's my Mummy so I get to say it!) and a father who I wouldn't trust to look after either of my children safely in a pink fit, whilst otherwise being an OK Dad (he just doesn't *get* that 2 year olds don't think like adults). all that is ahppening amanda is the regulators are bringing in bamdaides in an effort to save trauma, lets get back to the difficult course of "cause & effect" and find the real cause to issues not target and effect and try and fix it from that end. take pool fences just this summer there have been at least 4 deaths still and that is only the ones we here about, so pool fences aren't working because they are a band aide, without too much trouble at all these pool incicences can all be bouhgt home to bad parenting. Care to share some facts and figures here Len? From what I've read, mandatory fencing has dramatically reduced the numbers drownings of toddlers in the 0-5 y age bracket. Fencing does work when used properly and in conjunction with parental supervision. Nobody is saying that this means you don't need parental supervision, given that a child can drown in under 2 minutes, that's not a large time span and you also cannot convince me that parents in the past watched their children 24 hour a day without missing 2 minutes of each child's waking activities... even as the most wonderful parent in the world, I must occasionally go to the toilet and trust while I am there, that my 2.5 yo son has not caused himself or his sister any harm. If I had an unfenced pool at my back door, I think *that* would be bad parenting I think you might also find that the number of backyard pools has increased dramatically in the past 50 years as well and this would have implications on the numbers of drownings you would expect. snipped Again Len - not wanting to have a go at you, but do you perhaps think that a) there are considerably more cars on the road now than back in the olden days? and b) that kids still did stupid things back then but it might not have made the evening news. From what I know from my parents and grandparents era, it wasn't uncommon to have had a sibling die from an accident of some sort .... or an illness that hadn't been described. i know that amanda but the regulator doesn't seem to know that neither do the educators or the parents or the standard of road safety education would be elevated at the same level as the road traffic and population grows. not wait for something to hapen then band aid it. Len - believe it or not, we do teach our children about road safety. It may interest you to know that a child's field of vision is not as great as an adult due to their different head shape. Adults have a lot more peripheral vision. ...and while we are on road safety, let me tell you about the 60ish year old, fit looking man who, whilst chatting on his mobile phone, stepped out in front of my car last Friday when he decided to cross against the light, just as my light went green ... there wasn't even a break in conversation as he meandered across 4 lanes of traffic while we all politely waited for him! I suspect he was so engrossed in his conversation that he failed to realise that the red flashing stick-man on the light facing him meant he should probably stop at the kerb. :P don't where you r parents/grandparents lived but i was a kid and we lost none of our friends to accidents or poisonings. Really... bully for your lot. Perhaps you didn't grow up on a farm or you were just lucky. Perhaps we could start with my father's cousin who died from castor bean poisoning, another cousin who we now suspect died from an allergic reaction, Dad's friend who died in a motorcycle accident, Grandma's cousin who died in a farm accident, FIL's sister who died from malnutrition, and a friend's great grandmother who drowned in the farm dam. My own DH grew up on a farm and frankly had some fairly scary accidents as a child.... and his parents were excellent parents. All of these families were *good* families and good parents who had some very unlucky circumstances (well - not FIL's parents - they were atrocious, but he survived them and turned out to be one of the best fathers of his generation). if i was amanda i wouldn't be too keen on signing off on anything like that nowadays it smells of scapegoating. Sorry - its the kindy that has to sign off, and I'm not officially offering an expert opinion so I'm not signing. Its interesting to get this "generational" discussion though. Amanda thanks for the cross post i have never been in this sort of discussion before, we as grandparents & parents would hate to lose any of our children/grandchildren to any of those preventable accicents that is why we are so high on proactivity and prevention. I agree - and this is absolutely no different to what we are doing as "today's parents". ....and I must admit I had thought this conversation might have lead to a few more suggestions of plants to watch out for and not so much a discussion of values and parenting whe nI cross-posted it! It is interesting though. this wait until the horse has bolted before closing the gate system we seem to have is reactive and so far isn't preventive long term because the real causes are treated as sacred cows. we are not allowed to point the finger at bad parenting. Only if you are equally pointing it in your own generation's direction. There will always be "good" and "bad" parents ... and what one person thinks is "good parenting" may be totally unthinkable to another parent in a different generation. Goodness knows how often I've smiled an nodded my way through "parenting advice" from well-meaning grannies who suggest things they think would help, but which could actually harm my kids. i am not highlighting those with special needs they need special circumstances, the cases i have mentioned apart from one where totaly preventable if the parents where dispatching their responsibilities responsibly. ....and since special needs children are included in the same schools and centres as "normal" kids, we need to make sure they are safe as well as the "normal" kids. If a centre hangs out its shingle and charges a fee to care for children, one could reasonably expect it to have a safe environment and have qualified child carers available for the children so that the parent can expect that their child is safe while there. ..... much like one expects a hire car not to have serious and potentially dangerous mechanical defects, charter boats not to have leaky hulls and surgeons to have some sort of qualification in medicine, and some idea of what they are doing before performing operations. my heart goes out to the grandparents (my status) and the parents of that family that lost 2 toddlers in 3 years in same like circumstances on the same property. Yes indeed - a very sad story. Amanda |
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"len garden" wrote in message ... there are a lot of grandparents out there who are more than capable of looking after their offsprings offsprings. Yes - but what if a) they are working themselves, b) live too far away, c) are completely incompetent / untrustworthy as child carers or d) not remotely interested in taking care of 1 or more children for 9-10 hours a day, for up to 5 days a week?. just the gov' would have too many strings attached for it to work, so we get the pleasuer of filling in the gaps for the gov' for nought while the gov' subsudises profits into private franchises. Some grandparents don't see it as a "pleasure" I'm afraid. ...and its a 5 day a week full time job. Having said that, I'm grateful that Mum looks afer my son 1 day a week while I go in to the office ... but that suits us both at the moment. be proactive not reactive. rearing children is a family matter prinarily and community/society matter secondary, we seem to be putting all our eggs into the secondary basket. Many parents would love to have a parent at home with the children full time .... but since mortgages have skyrocketed in the last 30 years along with many other things, many families simply cannot afford this luxury. Also - since its mostly mothers who do the staying at home bit anyway, we do tend to have slightly better careers than our forebears and some of us feel the need to continue with our chosen work as well as have children. Its not an "all-or-nothing" choice. Amanda |
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"len garden" wrote in message ... g'day chris, it is still the parents responsibility to ascertain they are not for the sake of convenience leaving their children in a less than desirable situation, there are many pressures on modern parents for both to work for the families betterment. Len - do you really think you could walk into a childcare centre (or somebody's house for that matter) and find every single thing that could cause harm to a toddler? Its not as easy as you would think. Amanda |
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there are a lot of grandparents out there who are more than capable of
looking after their offsprings offsprings. why should my parents be responsible for watching my kids? If I want to go out and make money I shoulds expect to pay someone for their time. (although I know a few peoples parents who are happy with that kind of arrangment, most are not) And if I pay for a service, I expect it to be a safe thing. Most peoples parents are at an age where they are ready to have fun, travel and do what they want.. not be stuck down with more kids. -- Leanne ---------------------- Don't demand respect as a parent. Demand civility and insist on honesty. Respect is something you must earn. |
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len garden wrote: rearing children is a family matter prinarily and community/society matter secondary, we seem to be putting all our eggs into the secondary basket. I'd disagree with that. Try going in to Sydney CBD with a 2yo in a stroller. You find out exactly how much time hasn't been devoted to making it easy to get round. At least DS2 will be out of his stroller in a year or two. If I were a wheelchair person, I'd be out the front of the Town Hall with a placard. And if our society is so child-friendly, where's the decent maternity leave (to hark back to another thread), and the jobs that allow you to pick the kids up from school? Getting off my soapbox before things get out of control... -- Chookie -- Sydney, Australia (Replace "foulspambegone" with "optushome" to reply) "Parenthood is like the modern stone washing process for denim jeans. You may start out crisp, neat and tough, but you end up pale, limp and wrinkled." Kerry Cue |
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Chookie wrote:
In article , len garden wrote: rearing children is a family matter prinarily and community/society matter secondary, we seem to be putting all our eggs into the secondary basket. I'd disagree with that. Try going in to Sydney CBD with a 2yo in a stroller. You find out exactly how much time hasn't been devoted to making it easy to get round. At least DS2 will be out of his stroller in a year or two. If I were a wheelchair person, I'd be out the front of the Town Hall with a placard. And if our society is so child-friendly, where's the decent maternity leave (to hark back to another thread), and the jobs that allow you to pick the kids up from school? Getting off my soapbox before things get out of control... OK I will admit I came in late and can't be bothered going back through all the posts but... Why do you think employers should bear the cost of work place disruption, that maternity leave causes, ditto with allowing people to knock off work to pick up the kids? |
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"Barbara" wrote: Chookie wrote: In article , len garden wrote: rearing children is a family matter prinarily and community/society matter secondary, we seem to be putting all our eggs into the secondary basket. I'd disagree with that. Try going in to Sydney CBD with a 2yo in a stroller. You find out exactly how much time hasn't been devoted to making it easy to get round. At least DS2 will be out of his stroller in a year or two. If I were a wheelchair person, I'd be out the front of the Town Hall with a placard. And if our society is so child-friendly, where's the decent maternity leave (to hark back to another thread), and the jobs that allow you to pick the kids up from school? Getting off my soapbox before things get out of control... OK I will admit I came in late and can't be bothered going back through all the posts but... Why do you think employers should bear the cost of work place disruption, that maternity leave causes, ditto with allowing people to knock off work to pick up the kids? What's wrong with shifting hours (where possible) so that people can pick up their kids? There are plenty of jobs out there where it would be completely feasible for folks to start work at 7am and stop at 3pm so they can go pick their kids up from school. In fact, I wouldn't be surprised if people got more work done if the working day was staggered so everyone didn't start and finish at the same time. I bet there'd be a lot of people (including those who don't have kids) who would like a staggered start/end time option for their jobs. eggs. |
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On Tue, 27 Mar 2007 09:33:54 +1000, eggs
wrote: What's wrong with shifting hours (where possible) so that people can pick up their kids? There are plenty of jobs out there where it would be completely feasible for folks to start work at 7am and stop at 3pm so they can go pick their kids up from school. In fact, I wouldn't be surprised if people got more work done if the working day was staggered so everyone didn't start and finish at the same time. I bet there'd be a lot of people (including those who don't have kids) who would like a staggered start/end time option for their jobs. You're right. I have some friends who don't have kids (and never will have kids), who like to start work at 7.30am so they can knock off around 4-4.30pm and miss all the traffic. A boss I used to have would start work at 9.30-10am and work through to 6pm so she could miss the traffic. Before I had children I used to work from 7.30am to 3.30pm at a defence force base and it was perfect, plus since we had flex time I could work to 4pm, leave earlier than most people and take a day off once a month. Flex time with set core hours is a great idea if the company can swing it. Cheryl |
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"Leanne" wrote: there are a lot of grandparents out there who are more than capable of looking after their offsprings offsprings. why should my parents be responsible for watching my kids? [...] Most peoples parents are at an age where they are ready to have fun, travel and do what they want.. not be stuck down with more kids. It's interesting how the view on this has changed. Once upon a time the family was the smallest economic unit -- all the members of the family believed it was their duty to support each other. The oldies cared for the littlies, but were themselves cared for if they became feeble. This was before the age of the SKINs, though! -- Chookie -- Sydney, Australia (Replace "foulspambegone" with "optushome" to reply) "Parenthood is like the modern stone washing process for denim jeans. You may start out crisp, neat and tough, but you end up pale, limp and wrinkled." Kerry Cue |
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