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I simply dont know how you can equate my reposting a message "call Jo Ann if you
need help" with the individuals saying that I and my friends are full of crap, are liars, etc. Perhaps a framework is needed. I havent posted this in a while. http://www.mu.edu/~buxtoni/wsFALL200...l_attacks.html HOW TO DETERMINE THAT A PERSONAL ATTACK IS OCCURRING 1. A personal attack or assault is not a discussion of facts. It begins with the attacker clearly identifying the person being attacked either by name or by the use of "you" repeatedly 2. The attack is full of emotional words, feelings, beliefs and opinions, but few facts. 3. The attacker typically proposes or insinuates elaborate motives (often conspiracies) for behavior that has no basis in fact. Ascribing motives to another person is, of course, unknowable. Motives are negative for the most part. 4. Name calling and character assassination is typical. 5. The attacker will often refer to "unidentified others" who share their beliefs and "know what they know". 6. The attack is most often public to be effective. A major point I make to my students is that there cant be any debate of facts if one person is attacking, or, if people are presenting their beliefs or feelings rather than factual material. Scientists can discuss competing theories using facts without resorting to calling names, questioning another scientists motives, or using emotional language. How people "feel" is not debatable, facts are. Opinions may be feelings or beliefs, or, they may be presented as facts. If you say "in my experience ponds that freeze over dont kill fish" I can hardly say "no, you didnt experience that". What I can say is "boy are you lucky because the following facts suggest that more often than not fish die in frozen ponds. " Even your statement "you have all the answers" is not a statement of fact, it is a belief or a feeling that you have. Because of course I dont have all the answers and most of the time I dont post anything on a very wide range of topics on this list. Then you continue "anybody else's knowledge is wrong if it contradicts yours" which is a sweeping statement of how you feel about my posting facts that contradict facts that you? post. The assumption is that contradictory facts mean somebody is right and somebody wrong but this is a fallacy. The honest debate of facts is what leads to forward movement and a synthesis. Which is a good thing. I will however admit that as a scientist and a teacher I do love good debates. Ingrid Derek Broughton wrote: That's part of the problem. The other part is that you have all the answers and anybody else's knowledge is wrong if it contradicts yours. Allow people an opinion once in a while. ~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~ List Manager: Puregold Goldfish List http://puregold.aquaria.net/ www.drsolo.com Solve the problem, dont waste energy finding who's to blame ~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~ Unfortunately, I receive no money, gifts, discounts or other compensation for all the damn work I do, nor for any of the endorsements or recommendations I make. |
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I simply dont know how you can equate my reposting a message "call Jo Ann if you
need help" with the individuals saying that I and my friends are full of crap, are liars, etc. Perhaps a framework is needed. I havent posted this in a while. http://www.mu.edu/~buxtoni/wsFALL200...l_attacks.html HOW TO DETERMINE THAT A PERSONAL ATTACK IS OCCURRING 1. A personal attack or assault is not a discussion of facts. It begins with the attacker clearly identifying the person being attacked either by name or by the use of "you" repeatedly 2. The attack is full of emotional words, feelings, beliefs and opinions, but few facts. 3. The attacker typically proposes or insinuates elaborate motives (often conspiracies) for behavior that has no basis in fact. Ascribing motives to another person is, of course, unknowable. Motives are negative for the most part. 4. Name calling and character assassination is typical. 5. The attacker will often refer to "unidentified others" who share their beliefs and "know what they know". 6. The attack is most often public to be effective. A major point I make to my students is that there cant be any debate of facts if one person is attacking, or, if people are presenting their beliefs or feelings rather than factual material. Scientists can discuss competing theories using facts without resorting to calling names, questioning another scientists motives, or using emotional language. How people "feel" is not debatable, facts are. Opinions may be feelings or beliefs, or, they may be presented as facts. If you say "in my experience ponds that freeze over dont kill fish" I can hardly say "no, you didnt experience that". What I can say is "boy are you lucky because the following facts suggest that more often than not fish die in frozen ponds. " Even your statement "you have all the answers" is not a statement of fact, it is a belief or a feeling that you have. Because of course I dont have all the answers and most of the time I dont post anything on a very wide range of topics on this list. Then you continue "anybody else's knowledge is wrong if it contradicts yours" which is a sweeping statement of how you feel about my posting facts that contradict facts that you? post. The assumption is that contradictory facts mean somebody is right and somebody wrong but this is a fallacy. The honest debate of facts is what leads to forward movement and a synthesis. Which is a good thing. I will however admit that as a scientist and a teacher I do love good debates. Ingrid Derek Broughton wrote: That's part of the problem. The other part is that you have all the answers and anybody else's knowledge is wrong if it contradicts yours. Allow people an opinion once in a while. ~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~ List Manager: Puregold Goldfish List http://puregold.aquaria.net/ www.drsolo.com Solve the problem, dont waste energy finding who's to blame ~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~ Unfortunately, I receive no money, gifts, discounts or other compensation for all the damn work I do, nor for any of the endorsements or recommendations I make. |
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doing a google search for "Jo Ann asked me to remind"
...............on rec.goldfish etc. I posted Dec 24 2004, 6:52 am Dec 31 2004, 4:52 pm Jan 2, 2:15 pm .................on rec.ponds I posted Jan 2, 2:15 pm Jan 3, 6:03 pm Jan 4, 3:18 pm Jan 8, 2:16 pm This is a total of 6 times with one cross posting over 18 days. There werent multiple posts per day for an average of one posting every 3 days. I cannot be held accountable for others replying and including my text. Your use of the word "services" suggests a "pay for service" which of course is incorrect. There is no cost for Jo Ann's help. Ingrid Derek Broughton wrote: (b) once a month, or even once a week, advertising Jo Ann's services wouldn't bother me. It was the multiple-times-per-day that got annoying. ~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~ List Manager: Puregold Goldfish List http://puregold.aquaria.net/ www.drsolo.com Solve the problem, dont waste energy finding who's to blame ~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~ Unfortunately, I receive no money, gifts, discounts or other compensation for all the damn work I do, nor for any of the endorsements or recommendations I make. |
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doing a google search for "Jo Ann asked me to remind"
...............on rec.goldfish etc. I posted Dec 24 2004, 6:52 am Dec 31 2004, 4:52 pm Jan 2, 2:15 pm .................on rec.ponds I posted Jan 2, 2:15 pm Jan 3, 6:03 pm Jan 4, 3:18 pm Jan 8, 2:16 pm This is a total of 6 times with one cross posting over 18 days. There werent multiple posts per day for an average of one posting every 3 days. I cannot be held accountable for others replying and including my text. Your use of the word "services" suggests a "pay for service" which of course is incorrect. There is no cost for Jo Ann's help. Ingrid Derek Broughton wrote: (b) once a month, or even once a week, advertising Jo Ann's services wouldn't bother me. It was the multiple-times-per-day that got annoying. ~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~ List Manager: Puregold Goldfish List http://puregold.aquaria.net/ www.drsolo.com Solve the problem, dont waste energy finding who's to blame ~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~ Unfortunately, I receive no money, gifts, discounts or other compensation for all the damn work I do, nor for any of the endorsements or recommendations I make. |
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Why Tom, we all know you follow Puregold very carefully so you would of course know
that neither I nor Jo Ann posts to the list very often these days (which is just as well since she is very busy with her antique business while I am just busy!) and that most people are doing so very well with their fish. there are of course the typical floating problems, wen problems, etc. that are easily handled by the other experienced and knowledgable GF keepers on the list. Lately there has been a discussion about KH and pH, a biowheel problem and the posted "help needed" messages from rec.gf and other help wanted requests to the list. What has been an exciting development on the list are the independent experiments a couple people been doing. Ingrid "Tom L. La Bron" wrote: Being on your list must not be that much help or that much of an advantage if Jo Ann is so busy helping people with problems on your list. You would think that being on Puregold would have everyone is Goldfish paradise with no problems at all, with you and Jo Ann there helping at the drop of a hat, obviously they are not listening or the proper information is not being given. I wonder what it is. Tom L.L. ~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~ List Manager: Puregold Goldfish List http://puregold.aquaria.net/ www.drsolo.com Solve the problem, dont waste energy finding who's to blame ~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~ Unfortunately, I receive no money, gifts, discounts or other compensation for all the damn work I do, nor for any of the endorsements or recommendations I make. |
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Why Tom, we all know you follow Puregold very carefully so you would of course know
that neither I nor Jo Ann posts to the list very often these days (which is just as well since she is very busy with her antique business while I am just busy!) and that most people are doing so very well with their fish. there are of course the typical floating problems, wen problems, etc. that are easily handled by the other experienced and knowledgable GF keepers on the list. Lately there has been a discussion about KH and pH, a biowheel problem and the posted "help needed" messages from rec.gf and other help wanted requests to the list. What has been an exciting development on the list are the independent experiments a couple people been doing. Ingrid "Tom L. La Bron" wrote: Being on your list must not be that much help or that much of an advantage if Jo Ann is so busy helping people with problems on your list. You would think that being on Puregold would have everyone is Goldfish paradise with no problems at all, with you and Jo Ann there helping at the drop of a hat, obviously they are not listening or the proper information is not being given. I wonder what it is. Tom L.L. ~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~ List Manager: Puregold Goldfish List http://puregold.aquaria.net/ www.drsolo.com Solve the problem, dont waste energy finding who's to blame ~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~ Unfortunately, I receive no money, gifts, discounts or other compensation for all the damn work I do, nor for any of the endorsements or recommendations I make. |
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I simply dont know how you can equate my reposting a message "call Jo Ann if you need help" with the individuals saying that I and my friends are full of crap, are liars, etc. Perhaps a framework is needed. I havent posted this in a while. http://www.mu.edu/~buxtoni/wsFALL200...l_attacks.html HOW TO DETERMINE THAT A PERSONAL ATTACK IS OCCURRING Seems Ingrid uses all below except rules #4 and #12. THE THIRTEEN COMMANDMENTS OF FLAMING: Flames should be witty, insulting, interesting, funny, caustic, or sarcastic, but NEVER, EVER, should they be boring. The Thirteen Commandments of Flaming 1. Make things up about your opponent: It's important to make your lies sound true. Preface your argument with the word "clearly." "Clearly, Fred Flooney is a liar, and a dirtball to boot." 2. Be an armchair psychologist: You're a smart person. You've heard of Freud. You took a psychology course in college. Clearly, you're qualified to psychoanalyze your opponent. "Polly Purebred, by using the word 'zucchini' in her posting, shows she has a bad case of penis envy." 3. Cross-post your flames: Everyone on the net is just waiting for the next literary masterpiece to leave your terminal! From the Apple II RoundTable to X-10 Powerhouse RoundTable, they're all holding their breath until your next flame. Therefore, post everywhere. 4. Conspiracies abound: If everyone's against you, the reason can't *possibly* be that you're an obnoxious sh??head. There's obviously a conspiracy against you, and you will be doing the entire net a favor by exposing it. 5. Lawsuit threats: This is the reverse of Rule #4 (sort of like the Yin & Yang of Flaming). Threatening a lawsuit is always considered to be in good form. "By saying that I've posted to the wrong group, Bertha has libeled me, slandered me, and sodomized me. See you in court, Bertha." 6. Force them to document their claims: Even if Harry Hoinkus states outright that he likes tomato sauce on his pasta, you should demand documentation. If Newsweek hasn't written an article on Harry's pasta preferences, then Harry's obviously lying. 7. Use foreign phrases: French is good, but Latin is the lingua franca of flaming. You should use the words "ad hominem" at least three times per article. Other favorite Latin phrases are "ad nauseum," "veni, vidi, vici," and "fetuccini alfredo." 8. Tell 'em how smart you a Why use intelligent arguments to convince them you're smart when all you have to do is tell them? State that you're a member of Mensa, or Mega, or Dorks of America. Tell them the scores you received on every exam since high school. "I got an 800 on my SATs, LSATs, GREs, MCATs, and I can also spell the word 'premeiotic' ." Stick a bunch of impressive initials on your sig, and make that sig at least 10 lines long, to show people how Really Powerful you are. Loudly point out their spelling errors. 9. Accuse your opponent of censorship. It is your right as an American citizen to post whatever the hell you want to the net (as guaranteed by the 37th Amendment, I think). Anyone who tries to limit your cross-posting or move a flame war to email is either a communist, a fascist, or both. 10. Doubt their existence: You've never actually seen your opponent, have you? And since you're the Center Of The Universe and Chief Net-Cop, you should have seen them by now, shouldn't you? Therefore, THEY DON'T EXIST! This is the beauty of flamers' logic. 11. Lie, cheat, steal, leave the toilet seat up. Who cares! You're probably a fat, pimply-faced, manipulative computer-nerd with no social skills, and your opponent is worse. Besides, if you were getting laid at all by anything other than the cheap hookers down the street, you wouldn't be flaming anyway. 12. When in doubt, insult: If you forget the other 12 rules, remember this one. At some point during your wonderful career as a Flamer you will undoubtedly end up in a flame war with someone who is better than you. This person will expose your lies, tear apart your arguments, make you look generally like a bozo. At this point, there's only one thing to do: INSULT THE DIRTBAG!!! "Oh yeah? Well, your mother does strange things with vegetables." 13. Last, but not least, threaten to tell their sysadmin or postmaster all about them. You can always hope that they are newbie enough to feel threatened by this, unless they had a younger brother or sister who was always tattling to Mommy. EXAMPLE...for the Rookie Flamer Dear Fred, I object to your use of the word "dear." It shows you are a condescending, sexist pig. Also, the submissive tone you use shows that you like to be tied down and flagellated with licorice whips. While I found your article "The Effect of Belly-Button Lint on Western Thought" to be extremely thought-provoking, "Thought-provoking?" I had no idea you could think, you rotting piece of swamp slime. it really shouldn't have been posted in rec.scuba. Your attempts constitute nothing less than censorship. There is a conspiracy against me. You, Riff Raff, and Simon Sinister have been constantly harassing me by email. This was an ad hominem attack! I have therefore cross-posted this to alt.flame, rec.nude, comp.graphics, and rec.arts.wobegon. I have also copied this whole correspondence to your sysadmin/postmaster, so he can delete your account. Perhaps you should have posted it in misc.misc. It is my right, as granted in the Bill of Rights, the Magna Carta, the Bible and the Koran, to post where ever I want to. Or don't you believe in those documents, you damn fascist? Perhaps if you didn't spend so much time sacrificing virgins and infants to Satan, you would have realized this. Your article would be much more appropriate there. Can you document this? I will only accept documents notarized by my attorney, and signed by you in blood. Besides, you don't really exist anyway, you AI project, you. At all times, remember what the original meanings of the word "flamer" we 1) a loud, obnoxiously gay man, and 2) a person who lights their farts for amusement. |
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I simply dont know how you can equate my reposting a message "call Jo Ann if you need help" with the individuals saying that I and my friends are full of crap, are liars, etc. Perhaps a framework is needed. I havent posted this in a while. http://www.mu.edu/~buxtoni/wsFALL200...l_attacks.html HOW TO DETERMINE THAT A PERSONAL ATTACK IS OCCURRING Seems Ingrid uses all below except rules #4 and #12. THE THIRTEEN COMMANDMENTS OF FLAMING: Flames should be witty, insulting, interesting, funny, caustic, or sarcastic, but NEVER, EVER, should they be boring. The Thirteen Commandments of Flaming 1. Make things up about your opponent: It's important to make your lies sound true. Preface your argument with the word "clearly." "Clearly, Fred Flooney is a liar, and a dirtball to boot." 2. Be an armchair psychologist: You're a smart person. You've heard of Freud. You took a psychology course in college. Clearly, you're qualified to psychoanalyze your opponent. "Polly Purebred, by using the word 'zucchini' in her posting, shows she has a bad case of penis envy." 3. Cross-post your flames: Everyone on the net is just waiting for the next literary masterpiece to leave your terminal! From the Apple II RoundTable to X-10 Powerhouse RoundTable, they're all holding their breath until your next flame. Therefore, post everywhere. 4. Conspiracies abound: If everyone's against you, the reason can't *possibly* be that you're an obnoxious sh??head. There's obviously a conspiracy against you, and you will be doing the entire net a favor by exposing it. 5. Lawsuit threats: This is the reverse of Rule #4 (sort of like the Yin & Yang of Flaming). Threatening a lawsuit is always considered to be in good form. "By saying that I've posted to the wrong group, Bertha has libeled me, slandered me, and sodomized me. See you in court, Bertha." 6. Force them to document their claims: Even if Harry Hoinkus states outright that he likes tomato sauce on his pasta, you should demand documentation. If Newsweek hasn't written an article on Harry's pasta preferences, then Harry's obviously lying. 7. Use foreign phrases: French is good, but Latin is the lingua franca of flaming. You should use the words "ad hominem" at least three times per article. Other favorite Latin phrases are "ad nauseum," "veni, vidi, vici," and "fetuccini alfredo." 8. Tell 'em how smart you a Why use intelligent arguments to convince them you're smart when all you have to do is tell them? State that you're a member of Mensa, or Mega, or Dorks of America. Tell them the scores you received on every exam since high school. "I got an 800 on my SATs, LSATs, GREs, MCATs, and I can also spell the word 'premeiotic' ." Stick a bunch of impressive initials on your sig, and make that sig at least 10 lines long, to show people how Really Powerful you are. Loudly point out their spelling errors. 9. Accuse your opponent of censorship. It is your right as an American citizen to post whatever the hell you want to the net (as guaranteed by the 37th Amendment, I think). Anyone who tries to limit your cross-posting or move a flame war to email is either a communist, a fascist, or both. 10. Doubt their existence: You've never actually seen your opponent, have you? And since you're the Center Of The Universe and Chief Net-Cop, you should have seen them by now, shouldn't you? Therefore, THEY DON'T EXIST! This is the beauty of flamers' logic. 11. Lie, cheat, steal, leave the toilet seat up. Who cares! You're probably a fat, pimply-faced, manipulative computer-nerd with no social skills, and your opponent is worse. Besides, if you were getting laid at all by anything other than the cheap hookers down the street, you wouldn't be flaming anyway. 12. When in doubt, insult: If you forget the other 12 rules, remember this one. At some point during your wonderful career as a Flamer you will undoubtedly end up in a flame war with someone who is better than you. This person will expose your lies, tear apart your arguments, make you look generally like a bozo. At this point, there's only one thing to do: INSULT THE DIRTBAG!!! "Oh yeah? Well, your mother does strange things with vegetables." 13. Last, but not least, threaten to tell their sysadmin or postmaster all about them. You can always hope that they are newbie enough to feel threatened by this, unless they had a younger brother or sister who was always tattling to Mommy. EXAMPLE...for the Rookie Flamer Dear Fred, I object to your use of the word "dear." It shows you are a condescending, sexist pig. Also, the submissive tone you use shows that you like to be tied down and flagellated with licorice whips. While I found your article "The Effect of Belly-Button Lint on Western Thought" to be extremely thought-provoking, "Thought-provoking?" I had no idea you could think, you rotting piece of swamp slime. it really shouldn't have been posted in rec.scuba. Your attempts constitute nothing less than censorship. There is a conspiracy against me. You, Riff Raff, and Simon Sinister have been constantly harassing me by email. This was an ad hominem attack! I have therefore cross-posted this to alt.flame, rec.nude, comp.graphics, and rec.arts.wobegon. I have also copied this whole correspondence to your sysadmin/postmaster, so he can delete your account. Perhaps you should have posted it in misc.misc. It is my right, as granted in the Bill of Rights, the Magna Carta, the Bible and the Koran, to post where ever I want to. Or don't you believe in those documents, you damn fascist? Perhaps if you didn't spend so much time sacrificing virgins and infants to Satan, you would have realized this. Your article would be much more appropriate there. Can you document this? I will only accept documents notarized by my attorney, and signed by you in blood. Besides, you don't really exist anyway, you AI project, you. At all times, remember what the original meanings of the word "flamer" we 1) a loud, obnoxiously gay man, and 2) a person who lights their farts for amusement. |
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doing a google search for "Jo Ann asked me to remind" ..............on rec.goldfish etc. I posted Dec 24 2004, 6:52 am Dec 31 2004, 4:52 pm Jan 2, 2:15 pm ................on rec.ponds I posted Jan 2, 2:15 pm Jan 3, 6:03 pm Jan 4, 3:18 pm Jan 8, 2:16 pm This is a total of 6 times with one cross posting over 18 days. There werent multiple posts per day for an average of one posting every 3 days. I cannot be held accountable for others replying and including my text. Oh my, aren't we the good doobie. Just six posts in eighteen days? Wow, how do you restrain yourself. Your use of the word "services" suggests a "pay for service" which of course is incorrect. There is no cost for Jo Ann's help. Ingrid Get what you pay for. Short of a few obvious afflictions, like ich, diagnosing over the 'net or phone is just a shot in the dark. You would not see any MD or DVM worth their salt doing what you, or Burke, does. Even though I've got several decades of keeping fish under my belt, and I stick to the basics of good housekeeping and quality food advice thankyouverymuch. I still say, the two of you don't pass the sniff test. BTW, where IS that diagnostician certificate of JoAnne's? I've been asking for it for a couple of weeks now (or maybe it just feels that way). Lilly |
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doing a google search for "Jo Ann asked me to remind" ..............on rec.goldfish etc. I posted Dec 24 2004, 6:52 am Dec 31 2004, 4:52 pm Jan 2, 2:15 pm ................on rec.ponds I posted Jan 2, 2:15 pm Jan 3, 6:03 pm Jan 4, 3:18 pm Jan 8, 2:16 pm This is a total of 6 times with one cross posting over 18 days. There werent multiple posts per day for an average of one posting every 3 days. I cannot be held accountable for others replying and including my text. Oh my, aren't we the good doobie. Just six posts in eighteen days? Wow, how do you restrain yourself. Your use of the word "services" suggests a "pay for service" which of course is incorrect. There is no cost for Jo Ann's help. Ingrid Get what you pay for. Short of a few obvious afflictions, like ich, diagnosing over the 'net or phone is just a shot in the dark. You would not see any MD or DVM worth their salt doing what you, or Burke, does. Even though I've got several decades of keeping fish under my belt, and I stick to the basics of good housekeeping and quality food advice thankyouverymuch. I still say, the two of you don't pass the sniff test. BTW, where IS that diagnostician certificate of JoAnne's? I've been asking for it for a couple of weeks now (or maybe it just feels that way). Lilly |
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